Women, 34, who fell pregnant after fling with Turkish barman says her husband has forgiven her – and shockingly, claims affair SAVED their marriage Dawn French, from Wigan, was flattered when flirty barman sent Screaming Orgasm cocktails to her tableMarried mother of two had unprotected sex after drinking cocktails
Consumed by guilt she confessed to husband Scott, 29, on her returnFound she was pregnant with barman's baby – and Scott supported her when she miscarriedCouple rebuilt relationship and say they are now happier than ever
18:00 GMT, 10 July 2012
A woman who cheated on her husband with a Turkish barman has managed to save her marriage – and says her bond with her husband is now stronger than ever.
Dawn French, 34, from Wigan, fell pregnant after a one-night-stand with a man she met while on a girls' holiday to Turkey.
Her settled life was left in tatters when she returned home from the holiday and confessed to Scott, 29, her husband of six years, that she had had an affair during her week-long break.
But incredibly, after she suffered a miscarriage and lost the baby, she and Scott managed to rekindle the old flame and find a way to be together again.
Regrets: On holiday with a girlfriend, Dawn was flattered by the attentions of a handsome Turkish barman. The two later had unprotected sex on his sofa – and Dawn was horrified to find weeks later that she was pregnant
Dawn says her infidelity came about when a handsome Turkish barman began flirting with her during a holiday she was supposed to have gone on with Scott.
Her husband had booked a holiday for them both, but the baby-sitting arrangements for their three children (their six-year-old daughter and her two sons, 13 and 16) fell through.
So he suggested Dawn take a friend instead.
Dawn explains: 'I'd been depressed and Scott could see I was exhausted looking after three kids. I thought it was a lovely gesture.'
So, in May 2010, Dawn flew to Marmaris, Turkey with a single female friend.
She quickly found the tension and stress of life at home melting away as they soaked up the sun and hit the bars at night.
But what Dawn hadn't anticipated was the attention they would attract from men.
She says: 'I wasn't used to men chatting me up but suddenly everywhere we went Turkish men were buying us drinks and telling us we were beautiful.
Flirtatious: Dawn says that Alex, the Turkish waiter with whom she had unprotected sex, flattered her and made her feel attractive
'It had been a long time since anyone, including Scott, had spoken to me that way, it felt good.'
Then the barman started flirting with her night after night. 'He was young and good looking but he kept staring at me and telling me how sexy I was.
'He sent over rounds of Screaming Orgasm cocktails and smiled and made constant eye contact.
'It was very flattering and I enjoyed the attention,' she admits.
'The more attention he gave me the more I pushed thoughts of my husband and kids to the back of my mind.
kept telling myself it was just a bit of fun. There were lots of women
there and it gave me a boost that he seemed only interested in me.'
Dawn says: 'I know how awful it sounds
and I'm not trying to make excuses, but when I was in Turkey the
drudgery of home felt so far away.
'I got completely carried away with having fun for what felt like the first time in years.'
But, four days into their week-long holiday, Alex asked Dawn and her pal to join him and a friend for a stroll on the beach.
More drinks followed and the girls agreed to go back to his apartment where he mixed more cocktails and then Alex made his move.
'A part of me was telling me to stop
but I already felt in too deep and lust was taking over. The more I had
to drink the easier it was to forget about life at home,' Dawn says.
would never have dreamed of going somewhere with a man back home in
Wigan but it felt different abroad and I allowed myself to be swept
'Things had gone stale at home and
I'd forgotten how to enjoy sex. It was just something you had to do at
the end of a busy day. This was different. I felt really wanted and
Dawn asked Alex if he had any condoms but when he shook his head they ended up having sex on the sofa anyway.
But the next day, reality dawned.
'At the time, it felt wild and passionate, but when I woke up the next morning I was horrified by what I had done and regretted it immediately,' Dawn says.
Back at the hotel Dawn broke down crying and her friend urged her to write it off as a drunken mistake.
Repairing the damage: Consumed by guilt, Dawn confessed the affair to Scott. Initially horrified, he later managed to come to terms with the misdemeanor and agreed to take Dawn back
They avoided the bar for the rest of their trip but by the time she boarded the plane home Dawn knew she would have to come clean to Scott.
She says: 'He was waiting at the airport. I felt so guilty when he hugged me.'
Over the next few days Dawn began to realise she hadn't been special to Alex, just another tourist notch on his bedpost.
'I felt stupid and worthless. The guilt was consuming me and there was only way to get rid of it – tell Scott the truth.'
Less than a week later she sat him down and blurted out that she had slept with a barman on holiday.
He hit the roof. 'He couldn't even look at me, he just told me to get out. I couldn't stop crying. One drunken mistake had ripped my family apart.'
She went to stay with her father but every day she begged Scott for forgiveness in the hope of fixing their shattered seven-year marriage.
Happier than ever: Dawn, 34, pictured with husband Scott, 29, says her marriage is stronger than ever. 'We understand each other better,' she says
But then two weeks on when her period was late, her friend urged her to take a pregnancy test and to her horror it was positive.
She says: 'I knew it wasn't Scott's because he'd had a vasectomy. It could only be Alex's.'
In shock she called Scott and blurted out the news. 'He hung up so I picked up my bag and just started running home. I had to see him. But he stopped me in the street.
'I was crying and saying it was only a one-night stand but he said I must have spent the whole week in bed with him. It just wasn't true.'
'He wouldn't talk to me. Stupidly I said it was his fault for sending me to Turkey in the first place.'
She had barely had chance to consider her options when, the next day, she started suffering cramps and spotting.
Terrified, Dawn turned to the one person she had always relied on, Scott. 'He was my best friend and despite everything I knew he would help me.'
Scott drove her to hospital where doctors confirmed she was having a miscarriage.
For better or for worse: Scott and Dawn, pictured on their wedding day, say they are now 'very much in love'
She says: 'I accepted it. I felt it was punishment for what I had done. Scott could barely look at me.'
But over the next few days he stayed by his wife's side to make sure she was OK.
'I knew it was because I was the mother of his child so he wanted me to be OK but his kindness made me feel even more of a fool.'
Eventually he agreed she could come home for their daughter's sake. 'He could barely look at me and we didn't touch. He could see I was suffering and rightly so.'
The couple spent the following two months trying to get back to normality and tackle the problems that Dawn felt had sent her into the arms of another man in the first place.
She says: 'Our marriage was in trouble, we had drifted apart and I felt that sending me to Turkey was like sending a lamb to the slaughter.
'But ironically it may have even saved our marriage because losing Scott made me realise how much I loved and needed him and it forced us to be honest with each other.'
The couple took another holiday together four months later to try to sort out their relationship.
'We spoke from the heart and promised to do what we could to save the marriage. That night we were able to make love for the first time in months. It felt really special and I told him how much I loved him.'
Dawn wants to warn other women taking holidays without their partners to beware, concerned that other married women influenced by the heady mix of sun, sea and cocktails could make the same mistake as her.
At the time, Scott told Dawn he would never let her go on holiday alone again. But amazingly, this year he has agreed.
Dawn says: 'It's a sign of how far we have come. We are very much in love, very happy and have a greater understanding of each other. I could never be tempted now because Scott is giving me everything I need. I would even go as far as saying it saved our marriage.
Scott says: 'When she told me I was devastated. My world came crashing down in an instant.
'But it has made us realise what is important now. It took some time but we are stronger than ever.
'Dawn can go on holiday again whenever she wants as I trust her more than ever. We are so strong as a family unit again.
'Of course I wish it had never happened but in a way it has made us more understanding of each other.'