'There’s not a lot of attractive females in the suburbs': Why single women are leaving Manhattan in the search for love
18:12 GMT, 23 July 2012
Sex and the City would have us believe Manhattan is a dating mecca for single women, but it seems Candace Bushnell had it all wrong – New York's outer suburbs are fast becoming the new haven for meeting available men.
With ratio numbers staked against them, Manhattan's single women are making a bolt from the city's dating scene, with dating
experts increasingly encouraging city women to broaden their
Becoming increasingly tired of the city's immature men who won't commit, young women are encroaching on the suburbs of Westchester County, Greenwich, Nassau County and New Jersey to find their perfect man.
Suburban love: Manhattan's single women are now making a bolt from the city's dating scene, instead looking for love in the suburbs
Megan Glynn, 30, a visual-presentation coordinator for David Yurman, explained to The New York Post: 'Greenwich guys have gotten a lot younger. It used to be all families, but now it’s more of a business mini-mecca.'
Miss Glynn, who believes New York men are too obsessed with appearances, takes a 30-minute ride on Metro-North after work on Wednesdays or Thursdays to meet 'mature men with established careers at banks and hedge funds'.
She said: 'Guys in New York City are constantly emasculated when they have to buy a bottle to get into a club or they take a girl back to their apartment that they share with five other guys.'
She added that the caliber of competition in the suburbs is greatly diminished.
'There's not a lot of attractive females. If you’re smart and witty and you go out to Greenwich, you can do well,' she said.
Many young women believe that
finding a good-looking single man isn't actually the hard part in New York, they say it is
getting them to stick around that's difficult, with their commitment odds increased in the suburbs.
'If you’re smart and witty and go out to Greenwich, Connecticut you can do well'
Deanna Spence, a 36 year-old graphic
designer, told MailOnline: 'The men in New York behave as if they can take home any girl they
want, whenever they want. Meeting a single guy here is not
hard; getting them to stick around for longer than a night is the tough
With Manhattan men outnumbering women 742,400 to 729,500
in the never-married single group aged between 20 and 34, more women
are starting to realise that finding love may just be a few zip codes
Robyn Kassner, a 35-year-old owner of branding firm Haute PR, added: 'Ugly guys in Manhattan, they think they’re hot stuff. In Connecticut, they’re just very normal, very sweet, very unassuming.
'They don’t have game. They’re steak-and-potatoes American. They don’t care about fashion, they’re not metrosexual.'
With the rising number of women who have
never been married – currently standing at 42 per cent, up from 39 per
cent five years ago, and the highest percentage in the country, relationship experts continue to advocate looking outside 'the radius of NYC'.
Relationship expert, Heidi Banks, said: 'If you look, you’ll see these single guys advertising online, “Come out here, come date me.”
Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger, believes it’s only a matter of time before venturing into the suburbs for love is no longer considered a trend, and becomes a cultural norm.
She said: 'The men are not in the city; they’re buying houses in a down economy. If you want to get married, you have to go to where the men are. You have to think: location, location, location.'