The REAL price of feminism: Modern men expect women to go Dutch on dates now there's equality in the workplace
16:41 GMT, 21 September 2012
It seems that chivalry is dead thanks to growing financial pressures
and greater equality at work as men are becoming
increasingly unwilling to cover the cost of a first date.
The latest survey revealed that most men
would now ask for a contribution from a female partner on a first date with the vast
majority (51 per cent) happier to go Dutch and split the bill.
The true gentlemen out there are numbered – with just under one third of those
polled saying they would still pay for a first meeting.
Chivalry is dead as more and more men insist on going dutch when it comes to first dates
The remaining one in five said
they would be happy to pay for parts of the night, such as a round of drinks,
but would not be willing to cover the whole evening.
Shockingly a penny-grabbing five
per cent of those quizzed said they would be happy to reverse roles and allow
their female companion to fund their evening.
Increasing financial pressures
was cited as the number one reason behind the decision however many of those
polled stated that they felt it was unfair, or even a little embarrassing to
pay for the date.
Interestingly if things were
going badly the vast majority of those polled (91 per cent) said they would be willing
to cut their losses and leave early to save cash.
A spokesman for FridayFriday.com. who carried out the research,
said the results show that some men are choosing to put financial realities
ahead of first impressions when it came to a first encounter.
Increasing financial pressure is putting more strain on men when it comes to paying for dates
He said: 'Social etiquette has
always dictated that men pay for a first date, whether it be food, drinks, show
tickets or a taxi home – however it seems more men than ever before are
choosing to ask for a contribution from their date.
'This may sound a little
unromantic but our poll has revealed that for many they simply don’t have as
much cash as they may once have done and therefore are keen to ensure their
spending doesn’t spiral.
'Some of those surveyed pointed
to the fact that the gap between male and female pay was still shrinking and
therefore it wasn’t unreasonable to expect some money on their part.'
He concluded: 'The results show
that whilst chivalry is on the decline it isn’t totally dead with a small group
of men determined to pay for a first date, regardless of cost.'
SHOULD MEN PAY ON THE FIRST DATE WE ASKED THE PUBLIC…
Matthew Weedon, 23, from London said: 'I believe it is nice and the gentlemanly thing to do. Often it will be the man who has asked them out and if so why shouldn't you pay. It is a way of impressing them, take them somewhere amazing and exciting and make them feel looked after so they want a second date. I do think equality is good and further down the line why not split bills or take it in turns but at first it has and always should be the way the man looks after his lady!'
Leonie Cooper, 28, from Cardiff said: 'I quite like to pay just to set it straight nice and early that I have my own money, pay my own way and do my own thing.'
Jay Young, 24, from Cardiff said: 'I
think you should split it because it starts everything off completely
equally. Roles are far more equal now, some women earn more than men.
Plus if you were unfortunate looking it's likely you'd spend a fortune
on first dates.'
Stevie Young, 29, from London said: 'Men should absolutely pay for the first date, and for them all for that matter. I love making my girl feel special, a great bottle of wine and some fine dining is the key to any ladies heart! Nowadays more women like the idea of being independent and don't always expect you to pick up the bill but being a traditionalist, I always insist and believe it to be a nice touch.'
Catherine Smith, 21, from London said: 'Of course men should pay, it proves that romance isn't dead and that the whole concept of being a gentleman carries on. It's a really nice gesture and shows they are caring. It makes men feel in power- they love that.'
Ed Gauntlett, 23, from Oxford said: 'Absolutely not. A lot of the time you barely know the chick. She is as good as a stranger, but then again, dating is like business – It's all about getting a return on your investment.'