The A-Z of love: This week, Z is for Zen
22:43 GMT, 12 August 2012
James Kerr and Matthew
Johnstone celebrate the A-Z of love. This week, Y is for Zen.
Two monks are watching a flag flapping in the wind.
One says to the other: ‘The flag is moving.’ The other replies: ‘The wind is moving.’
The Master overhears and says: ‘Not the flag, not the wind; mind is moving.’
Z is for Zen
Koans — metaphorical zen stories like this one from The Gateless Gate — are a way for monks to remind themselves to stay present, to stay calm and to stay true to their commitments: qualities which are just as important in a relationship as they are in spiritual practice.
Zen emphasises an alignment of body, mind and spirit that, when done properly, is said to lead to enlightenment. This is achieved by meditation, sacrifice and mindfulness.
The question for today is: how can you be more mindful in your relationship More aware of the role you play in any issues
Can you be present to what is really happening, not what you wish was happening Can you be zen now and then
Having reached the end of our alphabet, we’d like to leave you with one final story — a gentle reminder. One day a man stumbles upon a tiger in the wilderness. He runs and runs, but comes to the cliff edge.
Trapped, he climbs down a vine, finding himself hanging over the ravine. Two mice appear and begin gnawing at the vine. The man notices a wild strawberry hanging beside him. He puts it in his mouth. ‘Delicious.’
Now that really is zen.