The A-Z of love: K is for kids
22:46 GMT, 29 April 2012
James Kerr and Matthew Johnstone celebrate the A-Z of love. This week, K is for kids
For most of us, having children is the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. But broken sleep, empty bank accounts and someone else snuggled up between us in bed can deflate even the most ardent of love affairs.
It’s all too easy to transfer the love you have for your partner towards the beautiful, innocent creature that has suddenly invaded your life. So, how do you make love last with a pram in the hallway
New life: For many, having children is the greatest thing that will ever happen to them
Well, good parents look after themselves
first. They eat well and drink less and get enough sleep. They exercise,
meditate and create the time do things for themselves.
It isn’t easy but they know that looking after number one helps them look after others. It gives them the energy they need to give their loved one a lie-in, a day off, a massage and some support. It makes them less stressed, which reduces frustration, anger and conflict.
It makes them more tolerant, minimising the edge that can make even the smoothest relationship rough. It makes them a better parent, and a better partner.
After all, the best way to give your child a happy childhood is to be a happy parent — and the best way to be a happy parent is to be happy in love:
MAKE A DATE: Research shows that couples who romance each other keep the romance. A regular date night reminds us we are lovers first, child-minders second.
THE THREE As: Communicate appreciation, affection and admiration — even when you don’t feel it.
EAT TOGETHER: It can be tempting to graze on your children’s meal. Better to save your appetite for your lover.