The A-Z of love: H is for housework
James Kerr and Matthew Johnstone celebrate the A-Z of love. This week, H is for housework.
Sharing the housework is the third most important ingredient of a happy marriage (after faithfulness and sexual satisfaction), according to a recent report.
UK research estimated that while women average just over 18 hours of housework a week, men get away with half that.
So, guys, your homework for today is the housework. After all, nothing says ‘I love you’ more than putting out the rubbish.
Dreaming of a handy man: Sharing the housework can equal a happy marriage
It is, of course, all about respect. If there is an imbalance between
one partner and the other, there will be friction, small resentments
that lead to lasting trouble.
HOW NOT TO BE A RUBBISH PARTNER
Pre-empt: Don’t wait to be asked. If in doubt, do the dishes.
Share the burden: Help your partner with something, even if it’s not your turn. It’s amazing the difference it makes.
Act: They won’t believe you when you say ‘I was just about to do that.’ Do it now.
If you argue about housework, it’s these
resentments and unfulfilled needs being aired.
recommend three steps for sorting out the domestics:
First, discuss. So often we assume what worked for our parents will work
for our partner — usually it doesn’t.
Second, define. One person’s
clean is another person’s filth. Set a standard you can both live with.
Third, delegate. Make sure you both know what is expected of you.