The A-Z of love: A is for Attraction

In a new weekly column, James Kerr and Matthew Johnstone celebrate the A-Z of love. Today, A is for attraction.

For some, it’s a bolt of lightning; for others, an animal magnetism. Poets celebrate it in verse, while divorce lawyers retire from the proceeds. And every minute, in every continent, life is created from it.

Attraction — that mysterious, magical moment when eyes meet and souls collide — can move mountains and change lives. But what is it, and how do we make it happen


Magnetism: What makes two people attracted to one another

For scientists, it’s about chemicals — dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and adrenalin. For Wordsworth, it was being ‘surprised by joy’. For the Rolling Stones, it is more Let’s Spend The Night Together.

The rest of us might not know its cause, but we know how it feels: butterflies in our belly, dilated pupils, an urge to shout to the heavens.

So let’s begin at the beginning — with an A for Attraction. Ask yourself: ‘Who will I be today And who will I attract’

SMILE: To have people like you, show them you like them. As orphan Annie says: ‘You’re never dressed without a smile.’

DRESS FOR SUCCESS: Experts claim women like men in blue to signify strength, seriousness and dependability. Men prefer women in pink, or peach, as it appears approachable.

BE POSITIVE: Men and women are attracted to confident, generous, positive and, yes, nice people. So be your lovely self and see what happens.