Ten is the perfect number of partners to have had… but any more is promiscuous
19:09 GMT, 5 September 2012
How many lovers is too many According to the latest survey, 10 really is the perfect number.
Researchers found that both men and women were put off potential new partners who had had more than 10 partners – as they were seen as promiscuous.
But partners who had had fewer than 10 lovers were seen as inexperienced.
Magic moment! A couple embrace in bed (posed). But this should only be up to their tenth sexual partner to be acceptable to most of the other sex, according to the latest study
Both men and women said that ten lovers was the right ‘Goldilocks’ answer.
With ten lovers – like the porridge in the children’s fairytale – you are neither too hot nor too cold.
Dating site www.SeekingArrangement.com asked 1000 of its male and female members to list how many lovers they wanted a new partner to have.
Half of all women, and 46 per cent of men said ten was the perfect figure, whereas 36 per cent of women and 42 per cent of men said they’d prefer a date with less experience.
11 per cent of women and 10 per cent of men said between 10 and 30 was the perfect figure – with just 3 per cent of people wanting a partner who had had more than 30 lovers.
Those polled were also asked if they wanted to know how many lovers a new partner had had in their past.
Just 35 per cent of women wanted to know a man’s total – against 65 per cent who would rather not find out.
For men, only 30 per cent wanted to know a woman’s sexual history, against 70 per cent who said they would rather not find out.
The results give a fascinating insight into dating etiquette – and suggest men are less tolerant of promiscuity than woman.
Nikki Howarth, 26, who runs her own party planning company in Nottingham, said: 'It is definitely a perfect ten for me.
Above the odds Nick Clegg (left) told Piers Morgan he had 'no more than thirty' notches on his bed post, whereas Mick Jagger's magic number of lovers is reportedly 4000
'You want to date a man who is confident and knows what he is doing sexually.
'To be good in bed, you need experience and you get that through getting to know what women want.'
Nikki, who has been on SeekingArrangement for the last year and is currently dating a millionaire businessman she met on the site, said she would never tell a man how many lovers she’d had.
She said: 'Guys do often ask me but I’d rather not say – you like to keep a bit of mystery.
'My advice to any girl is: don’t tell, particularly if your figure is above ten. Most guys will think worse of you.'
Liberal Democrat leader Nick Clegg famously told Piers Morgan in an interview that there were with 'no more than 30' notches on his bedpost .
Other stars’ magic numbers include Mick Jagger (4,000) , Coronation Street’s Bill Roache (1,000), Tony Blackburn (500), Warren Beatty (12,775) and Russell Brand (three women a day at the height of his promiscuity.)
Few females have revealed their totals – though the writer Lynn Barber once famously said on Desert Island Discs that she had slept with 50 men in two terms at Oxford University.
SeekingArrangement founder Brandon Wade said: 'The dating game is changing so quickly.
'I think we are all becoming a lot more tolerant and sexually adventurous.
'If we had conducted this poll ten years ago, men would have expected a potential partner to have slept with far few people.
'But a gentlemen never asks a woman who many men she has slept with.'
SeekingArrangement.com is the world’s biggest sugar daddy dating site, with more than 100,000 members in the UK.