Singer Sophie Ellis Bextor talks dangerous pregnancies, being outnumbered at home, and juggling her career with motherhood
10:07 GMT, 30 July 2012
After experiencing two traumatic pregnancies, a mother would inevitably worry about how the third might progress.
So it was a huge relief to singer Sophie Ellis Bextor that she was able to carry her youngest baby to term without life-threatening complications – the first time she had been able to do so.
Speaking to MailOnline three months after the birth of her third son, Ray Holiday, the singer said: 'When I was pregnant with Sonny and Kit I had something called pre-eclampsia, and they both had to be delivered two months early. So it was really nice that with Ray I had a good pregnancy and was finally able to carry him to term.'
Mum's the word: Sophie Ellis Bextor comes from a large family herself so has always wanted children
Pre-eclampsia is a condition that
can, in severe cases, cause the death of the mother and the unborn baby.
As a precaution, babies are delivered as soon as possible by Caesarean
section once the condition is diagnosed.
Bextor's first son, Sonny – born nine weeks early in April 2004 – spent
five weeks in hospital after his birth before being allowed home.
In February 2009 her second son,
Kit Valentine, was born eight weeks early and weighed 2lb 10z. He was immediately
placed in an incubator.
about now being the only girl in a house full of four boys, Ellis
Bextor – who is married to The Feeling bassist Richard Jones – said: 'I
don't really see it that way. I mean, even if we had daughters I'd still
be the only mum in the house.
'I don't feel outnumbered in terms of being a girl and I don't especially want a daughter – though perhaps Richie and I do feel outnumbered in terms of children!
genders my children were wasn't important to me – it was really just
the tip of the iceberg – the important thing is that my kids are all
here and all healthy.'
Mum and dad: Sophie Ellis Bextor with her husband Richard Jones enjoy a night out without their three children in July
Ellis Bextor – whose mother is Blue Peter presenter Janet Ellis – first shot to fame in
2000 after collaborating with DJ Spiller on the dance track Groovejet
(If This Ain't Love) before releasing her first album, 2001's Read My Lips, which featured the European smash hit Murder On The Dancefloor.
The yummy mummy also revealed that she has already gone back to work
since Ray's birth.
now both performing live and getting to work on two new albums, 'one
that is more unprocessed and singer-songwrightery, the other more
'It's great being
back on stage,' she said. 'Performing live is a bit like dating: the
more you do, the more comfortable you are doing it.
'I hope the way I've changed since my earlier days is that I've got better and become more confident.
used to be two different people – the real version of me and the
version of me who performed live – but now I think we've merged into
Ellis Bextor, who
lives in Chiswick, west London, also revealed that her secret to going
back to work is her nanny, Claire, who has been with her since Sonny was
four months old.
'She's absolutely brilliant. I couldn't function without her.'
tage: Following the birth of baby Ray, Sophie Ellis Bextor is already back to work and performed at the Eska Music Awards in Kolobrzeg, Poland
With the help of Claire, Ellis
Bextor managed to take all of her young sons – even baby Ray – on a
weekend away at Camp Bestival, DJ Rob Da Bank's family-friendly music
weekend held in the grounds of Lulworth Castle in Dorset.
She said: 'Richie is away working with The Feeling so we're here without him, and the kids are loving it.
in particular is really creative, really into drama and art and music.
Kit is more of a textbook boy with bundles of energy, always running
about. And so far Ray is just very poochy.
don't mind whether or not the boys follow us into music professionally,
but I would be sad if music wasn't a part of our lives in some way. We
always have music playing at home – everything from Deadmau5 to Verdi.'
Getting mucky: Sophie Ellis Bextor gets messy with some new little friends at Persils Mosh & Wash stage at Camp Bestival
With the help of Claire, Ellis Bextor managed to take all of her young sons – even baby Ray – on a weekend away at Camp Bestival, DJ Rob Da Bank's family-friendly music weekend held in the grounds of Lulworth Castle in Dorset.
She said: 'Richie is away working with The Feeling so we're here without him, and the kids are all loving it, running around and listening to music.
'Sonny in particular is really creative, really into drama and art and music. Kit is more of a textbook boy with bundles of energy, always running about. And so far Ray is just very poochy.
'We don't mind whether or not the boys follow us into music professionally, but I would be sad if music wasn't a part of our lives in some way. We always have music playing at home – everything from Deadmau5 to Verdi.
'I feel spending family time together playing music is not
only fun but it also encourages creativity amongst children.
'My love of
music came from an early age when I spent time with my mother and made
Getting messy with music: Sophie Ellis Bextor and some little fairy friends at Camp Bestival
We're in the band: Sophie Ellis Bextor at Camp Bestival with the newest member of her backing band
Looking stunning in a short white summer dress and bright eye make-up, Ellis Bextor said she hadn't had too much of a problem shifting baby weight after Ray's birth, but that she didn't feel she was quite back to her pre-pregnancy figure.
'I don't think there's a big secret to losing baby weight, and I'm still breastfeeding so I'm not really thinking about that.
'The human body is a very clever thing and does find a way to get back into shape. Most of my friends who have had babies around similar times have managed to keep their figure, too.'
Sophie Ellis Bextor was at Camp Bestival's Persil Mosh & Wash stage, encouraging families to have some fun and get messy with music with face painting, a dressing up box, a 'mucky dip' and instrument making.