Sinad O”Connor emerges after revealing she knew fourth marriage was in trouble just THREE hours after wedding
Sinad O”Connor announced on Boxing Day that her “dream” fourth marriage, to youth counsellor Barry Herridge, had ended after just 16 days.
The 45-year-old singer revealed on her website that the marriage was in trouble just three hours after the Las Vegas ceremony, when people close to her 38-year-old husband tried to ‘kybosh’ it.
But despite the brevity of the union, it could take years for the marriage to be legally dissolved, with Irish law requiring a four-year separation.
Over before it started: Sinad O”Connor, seen today at the door of her home in Bray in a bath towel, before changing, admitted her marriage begun to unravel within three hours of the ceremony
Wedded bliss: Sinad announced the end of her 16-day marriage this week, however according to Irish law a divorce will only be granted after a four-year separation
Sinad posted a statement on her personal website stating that she had decided to end the marriage on Christmas Eve after just seven days of domesticity.
She wrote: ‘There was intense pressure placed upon him by certain people in his life, not to be involved with me. These were people who had never met me but had formed opinions of me based on what they read about “Sinad O’Connor” in the media, etc’.
“They must be separated for four years and only then can they apply to have the marriage dissolved”
But she admitted that her husband had also been very upset by a ‘wild ride’ they took to try and buy marijuana on their wedding night, as she doesn’t drink alcohol.
‘My husband was enormously wounded and very badly affected by that experience and also by the attitude of those close to him toward our marriage,’ she said.
Miss O’Connor’s and Mr Herridge flew out to Las Vegas on her 45th birthday and married that day.
But despite its apparent spontaneity, the couple will now have to wait four years to legally end their brief union.
The Little White Wedding chapel confirmed to the Mail that the marriage certificate the couple signed was a legally binding contract.
Brief: The 45-year-old singer revealed on her website that the marriage was in trouble just three hours after the Las Vegas ceremony, when people close to her 38-year-old husband tried to ‘kybosh’ it
According to a staff member, both Miss O’Connor and Mr Herridge were made aware of the implications of the ceremony before they tied the knot. And a spokesman from the Las Vegas church confirmed that the couple would have to take legal action to dissolve the wedding.
She said: ‘All of our ceremonies are legally binding. Occasionally, we do get couples who renew their vows. But they are the only two types of service that we do. We can’t comment on any individual weddings but all the processes are legally binding. They are made aware of that when they decide to marry with us.’
MariannaFritz, a consultant with Irish Divorce Services, said the couple would be forced to wait at least four years before applying to terminate the marital contract.
‘It doesn’t matter whether you get married in Las Vegas, Australia or Ireland – the procedure is the same,’ said Miss Fritz.
‘First, they must be separated for four years and only then can they apply to have the marriage dissolved and, at that point, it is relatively straightforward.’
Split: O”Connor said that she lived with fourth husband Barry Herridge for just seven days, but that trouble began long before that
Alternatively, Miss O’Connor and Mr Herridge could apply to have the marriage annulled – that is, to have itdeclared legally void, as if it had never happened. But according to Miss Fritz this is an extremely difficult and costly procedure.
‘It doesn’t matter whether you get married in Las Vegas, Australia or in Ireland – The procedure is the same’
‘Theyare entitled to apply, but with an annulment, you must use solicitors which is an extremely costly avenue. It is also very difficult, as thereare only three, maybe four conditions that a court will accept. If either party is intoxicated or under the influence of any substances. Orif they can prove that they aren’t in a sane state of mind. Or if one of the parties is homosexual.
‘Basically, once the couple have consummated the marriage it is not easy to have it annulled.’
Miss O’Connor was not at her seafronthome in Bray, Co. Wicklow, yesterday. However, she posted a humorous message on her front door stating: ‘Dearest loving hacks. This is your quote: rock’n’roll.’
Thewedding to Mr Herridge was to be the fairy-tale ending to the singer’s search for love, which she launched last summer across Twitter and on The Late Late Show, even attending the annual matchmaking festival in Lisdoonvarna, Co. Clare.
“Wildride”: O”Connor revealed a “wild” journey she took on their wedding night in search of marijuana “as she doesn”t drink” wounded her husband
Thenthe singer shocked the nation by writing a series of candid blogs on her website, detailing what she was looking for in a man.
Shewrote in September that she was in ‘desperate need of a very sweet, sex-starved man,’ but specified that he ‘must be no younger than 44, must not be named Brian or Nigel, must be blind enough to think I’m gorgeous, has to be employed and he has to like his mother.’
Inundated with thousands of replies, Miss O’Connor selected just one man to go on a date with – her future husband.
‘Barry sent me this wonderful email, which just took my heart away. It had to be him,’ said the mother of four.
Originallyfrom Donaghmede, north Dublin, but now living in nearby Raheny, Mr Herridge revealed the contents of the email that kickstarted the relationship.
‘I was getting off a train at Connolly Station one morning when I saw this woman acting strangely on the platform. At first I didn’t know what she was doing and then I realised she was playing hopscotch. It wasn’t Sinad but a businesswoman in a suit and in her 30s, just having a bit of fun.’
Legally binding: A spokesperson for the Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas confirmed that the couple would have to take legal action to dissolve the wedding
He added: ‘I wondered why more women that age weren’t doing the same thing. And it struck me that this was exactly what Sinad was doing with her search for love, having fun, and I told Sinad about this woman in my first email.’
The story struck a chord with Miss O’Connor, who invited the paediatric psychotherapist out on a date last August. A coffee shop on Dublin’s South William Street was the setting for their first face-to-face meeting and it was love at first sight.
On December 7, the couple announced their intention to marry, using the Today FM Breakfast Show to get the happy news out to the nation.
The singer kept the happy news quiet when she appeared on the Ian Dempsey programme the previous day, telling him she had no gossip to share. But Barry rang the show on Wednesday morning to let the cat out of the bag.
Dempsey wrote on his Twitter page: ‘So Sinad O’Connor was holding back yesterday. Boyfriend Barry Herridge gotback to us today to reveal that they will wed tomorrow. ‘And it’s Sinad’s birthday tomorrow too. Congrats to them both. And Sinad’s new album is sounding great too.’
Annulment unlikely: Divorce specialists say only three or four conditions will be accepted by a court in order to grant a costly annulment and if the marriage is consummated it is highly unlikely
But by St Stephen’s Day, the controversial singer was composing a letter to break the news of her fourth marriage’s failure – to forestall, she said, another version leaking out.
She said she had decided to split with Mr Herridge as she couldn’t stand to see his life and career ruined through his association with her.
‘It became apparent to me that if he were to stay with me he would be losing too much to bear. And that being with me was not going to serve him positively, career wise or any other wise.’
She added; ‘I saw his life leave him because of how people close to him reacted. And I can’t take anyone’s life. And a woman wants to be a joy to her husband. So, you love someone Set them free. He is a wonderful man. I love him very much. I’m sorry I’m not a more regular woman.’
She also vowed not to let her latest failed relationship get her down. ‘The marriage was 16 days. We lived together for 7 days only. Until Xmas eve. And we haven’t been awful to each other. I am in a good place in life. And happy. As my good friend said “Well, at least you got married in Vegas in a pink Cadillac! Can’t get more Rock’n’Roll than that.”’
SINAD O”CONNOR”S RELATIONSHIP HISTORY
The course of true love has rarely runsmoothly for troubled Sinad O’Connor, whose latest unsuccessful searchfor domestic bliss is at least her tenth.
In addition to four marriages, the controversial singer has been involved in three relationships that produced children, as well as, she claims, three serious affairs with women.
The Nothing Compares 2 U star first tied the knot in 1989 to her drummer and producer John Reynolds and the couple had one son together, Jake, who is now 24.
The marriage broke down in 1993 and Sinad next began a relationship with journalist John Waters. Their daughter, Brigidine Risn, was born in 1996.
In 2002, the singer married another journalist, Nicholas Sommerlad. But the couple split after just 11 months and the star vowed she would never marry again.
Her third child, Shane, whose father is folk musician Donal Lunny, was born in 2004.
In 2006, Sinad began a relationship with Frank Bonadio, the estranged husband of singer Mary Coughlan, that produced a son, Yeshua Francis Neil, that December. They split in early 2007 but remained friends.
Despite Sinad’s anti-marriage vow, she walked down the aisle for a third time in July 2010, with longtime friend and musician Steve Cooney in July 2010. However, this one also lasted less than a year and the pair went their separate ways last April.
However, the singer’s relationships have not been confined to men. In an interview with Gerry Ryan on his Ryan Confidential programme, she said she had been involved in relationships with three women.
Loves: O”Connor married friend musician Steve Cooney last year and her first husband John Reynolds (right) is father to oldest son Jake
Another big love: Although Sinead and Frank Bonadio were only together for just over a year, they had a child together, son Yeshua
Sinad O’Connor’s claim to have searched Las Vegas for ‘weed’ after her wedding could land her in legal bother.
The singer said some people close to her new husband had been angered ‘by a bit of a wild ride I took us on looking for a bit of a smoke of weed for me wedding night as I don’t drink’.
It is believed that her reference to ‘weed’ was to the illegal drug cannabis, or marijuana, which Miss O’Connor has previously admitted using ‘now and again’.
The purchase or possession of cannabis is an offence in Nevada, subject to a fine of up to $600 for a first offence.
But far more serious might be the repercussions for the Glenageary-born singer’s music career.
For the U.S. authorities routinely refuse travel and work visas to those who have committed ‘crimes of moral turpitude’.
These crimes include ‘a violation (or conspiracy or attempt to violate) any law or regulations of a State, the United States or a foreign country relating to a controlled substance.’
In 1992, Miss O’Connor appeared to advocate marijuana smoking and in a 1999 Irish Times interview, she admitted to smoking ‘weed’, saying: ‘I do not take drugs – I smoke a little weed now and again, which I told the social workers and they laughed.
‘I do not take drink or any other drugs. Everybody knows that.’