Should children be banned from weddings Saturdays singer Rochelle Wiseman and JLS star Marvin Humes issue no-kid policy ahead of their big day
13:11 GMT, 24 May 2012
When putting together the invite list for a wedding, there is one question guaranteed to cause deep discord.
It is not whether to invite ancient Aunt Josephine, or your quiet but friendly colleague from the IT department, but whether any children should be allowed to attend.
Saturdays singer Rochelle Wiseman and her pin-up fiance Marvin Humes, from boyband JLS, have divided commentators by reportedly taking a firm stance against inviting youngsters.
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Every screaming, messy, clumsy infant will be banned from their big day – and parents will have to come up with alternative plans for childcare if they hope to attend.
The celebrity couple, who got engaged on a New Year holiday and plan to wed in the summer, are not alone in taking the forthright decision.
Increasing numbers of couples – determined their day will not be spoilt by any uncontrollable guest – are telling parents that their event is 'adults only'.
The subject is a tricky one. Some families see it as the perfect excuse to have a night off from the children.
Others find it offensive and strange, believing weddings are a family occasion – one in which you reunite with relatives and take the first step on the road towards having a family of your own.
Sam Ketterer, from wedding consultants Absolute Pefection, says the question is important – and is one the company puts to every client.
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'Most have already decided by the time we ask them,' he said. 'Naturally, if they want a family friendly celebration, this line of discussion ends.
'However, if they have decided they can do without the added stress and worry that children might negatively impact on their big day, we move swiftly on to suggesting the best ways of politely but firmly conveying a no-kids policy to guests.'
Banning children from weddings is of course a risky game. Parents who see the move as an unnecessary snub may refuse to attend at all.
The cost and effort of organising childcare alone could exclude some of your dearest friends from your happy day.
But it is vital to think about what sort of party you intend to throw – how glamorous, elegant or rock 'n'n roll it might be.
Rochelle and Marvin's wedding is set to be a lavish, A-list affair at which children might feel unhappy and out of place.
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Tulisa, Olly Murs and Pixie Lott are rumoured to be playing at the showbiz evening and the sophisticated dress code is black tie only.
The couple's bandmates will act as bridesmaids and ushers and 25-year-old Marvin has said it will be a glitzy event.
'It's going to be a big wedding,' he told The Mirror. 'My family is massive, there's no getting away from it.'
Marvin proposed to 22-year-old Rochelle in Antigua, slipping a 45,000 ring on to her finger.
The groom-to-be jetted off on a 'no-expenses-spared' stag do earlier this month, spending eight days in Miami and Las Vegas surrounded by bikini-clad beauties.
Rochelle's bandmates have vowed that her hen party will top even that event, in which Marvin was handcuffed to a dwarf.
Lucky guests will be expecting big surprises on the day itself, but one thing is for sure – every one of them will be over 18.