On the couch with… Abbey Crouch: Why did rumours she”s had her lips done upset her so much
Abbey Crouch, model, TV presenter and wife of footballer Peter Crouch, has hit out at recent speculation that she’s had work done on her lips.
Last week, she posted a picture of herself on Twitter with exaggerated ‘clown lips’, with the caption: ‘I swear I haven’t had my lips done!!!!’
If the rumour is true, why would someone so attractive want to alter her natural beauty And if the claims are not true, why would such rumours matter to someone who apparently has it all Psychologist Linda Blair gives her verdict:
Has it all: So why does Abbey Crouch still feel insecure about her appearance
Abbey, less than six years ago you competed on Living TV’s Britain’s Next Top Models.
Although you didn’t take first prize, you won in other ways. Very quickly, you were offered modelling contracts, and you graced the cover of several magazines.
Since then, you’ve appeared on TV, met the man to whom you’re now married, and you have a healthy and delightful seven-month-old daughter. Throughout this same period you’ve also continued to feature in FHM’s list of the ‘100 Sexiest Women in the World’. You’ve definitely had ample reassurance that others consider you to be incredibly attractive.
Now, however, there are those who suggest you’ve had work done in an attempt to enhance your lips — a claim that you have categorically, and very publicly, denied.
But did the allegations upset you so much There can only be two explanations for your reaction. Either you had work done and you’d hoped no one would notice, or you haven’t had any work done and it bothers you to think others believe you needed help to look the way you do.
Both of these possibilities suggest the same thing: that you’re not feeling very self-confident just now.
After all, if you felt as attractive as you undoubtedly are, you’d consider all this speculation to be unimportant and you’d ignore it — whether the rumours are true or not. Why might you be feeling unsure of yourself right now After all, at only 25, you’ve already had a successful start to your career, you’ve found the man you wanted to marry, and you now have an adorable baby.
Isn’t that just about everything a person might wish for
Perhaps that’s exactly the problem. Perhaps at only 25 years of age, you’re already wondering what there is left for you to achieve.
If you’ve already ‘done it all,’ you might begin to wonder what you have still to look forward to. There will be nothing, of course, if you base your sense of worth entirely on your appearance.
Lip service: Speculation mounted that Abbey had lip fillers after this picture emerged, left, but she took to Twitter, right, to deny it with a comical pose
If you think in those terms, the next step is to start comparing yourself to those around you. That, in turn, will cause you to feel competitive, and you’ll lose your sense of perspective.
For example, if you strive constantly to be more attractive than everyone else around you, sooner or later you’ll ‘fail’.
If, on the other hand, you decide to concentrate on your inner qualities — kindness, generosity or wisdom, for example — you need never fear growing older.
Whereas our appearance inevitably changes, our inner qualities become only richer and better with time — if we try to develop them. If you decide to adopt this attitude, you will no longer care what others say.
Comparing what you have or what you’ve achieved with what others have or have achieved is also a recipe for discontent. After all, there will always be someone who has more than you or has achieved more than you have. If instead you decide to pay attention to what you have right now and think about how you can use it, then you’ll always be happy.
Abbey, as the firstborn of four, you’re likely to be competitive. All children in a family have to share parental attention from birth, but the eldest child is the only one who once had that attention exclusively and then had to learn to share it.
This makes firstborns more competitive for attention than other children. This attitude will have helped you achieve all that you have now, but don’t you think it’s time to stop driving yourself Why not spend extra time with your daughter. At seven months old, she sees you as the centre of her universe. You needn’t put on make-up to gain her adoration.
Make time, too, to be with your husband. It’s common for new mothers to feel less attractive than they did before they had children, and to worry that their partner no longer considers them to be as sensual as he once did.
This worry can create a barrier between you. Why not make it a priority to spend an evening together, once a week
This will allow you to keep the lines of communication open. Furthermore, your partner will consider you more attractive if you make it clear that time with him is a top priority.
Finally, why not pick up one of the many strands in your career again You might offer time to a charity whose cause you support, or you could start planning a return to TV work or modelling. It’s worth noting that some agencies have begun employing women to work in front of the camera precisely because they’ve had children.
Therefore, here, too, there’s no need to be anything except yourself — just as you are.