No sex please, we're co-parents: The website that matches broody singles who want children without the relationship
Singles who long for children without the obligation of romantic involvement can now search for their perfect 'co-parenting' match online, thanks to a new website.
Launched last week, Modamily calls itself: 'The first online community to facilitate introductions between responsible, like-minded adults committed to co-parenting a child.'
So far the New-York based service that caters to those who want more than anonymous sperm or egg donors, but without the pressure of marriage, has attracted around 20,000 visitors.
Kids no sex: Co-parenting website Modamily caters to adults like the protagonists of Friends with Kids who want children without the pressure of marriage
Founded by former Hollywood talent agent, Ivan Fatovic, the website defines co-parenting as 'the shared raising of a child between two loving, committed, and financially secure adults.'
Hollywood has, of course, already capitalised on the new parenting concept with a comedy entitled Friends with Children in which two best friends have a
child together while maintaining a platonic relationship.
Explaining the reasoning behind the site to ABC, Mr Fatovic said: 'If [love and marriage] don't happen,
people end up marrying someone they're not crazy about and get divorced
in a few years.
'In two out of three divorces, a child is
involved,' he continued. 'When a child is introduced, the mom and dad don't get along
and are fighting with each other.
'My thinking is that we can find two
people that put the child first.'
So far 70 per cent of visitors to Modalia have been heterosexual males in their forties and fifties.
Members can log in and search the
database for the person they believe would make a good mother or father
but it is up to them how the baby will be conceived.
Co-parents: So far the website has attracted 20,000 visitors, 70 per cent of whom have been heterosexual men in their forties and fifties
Some may decide to have sex while some will opt for insemination methods but in each case a contract is drawn up between the co-parents to cover issues associated with raising a child, such as religious education and financial commitment.
Supporters of the co-parenting model advocate the idea of sexless unions as a way to protect a child from the trauma of divorce and constant arguing.
But some worry about would-be parents' motives and whether the hard work involved with child-rearing is considered before the partnerships are formed.
Samantha Schoech, a blogger and mother of five-year-old
twins, and the daughter of a divorced couple herself, believes some people are more preoccupied with having 'trophy children'.
'I am not completely gung-ho,' she
admitted to ABC. 'But I am not going to be judgmental about it. Between
the right people, it might be a workable thing.'
Pic your partner: Supporters advocate the sexless union as a way to protect children from divorce but others believe a sexual bond makes parenting easier
One expert who certainly isn't on the fence is Juli Slattery, a psychologist for the national Christian organisation Focus on the Family.
Explaining that sexual bonds help parents cope with children during times of stress, she referred to anyone that believes children 'are the only glue' as living 'in fairytale land.'
'Sex and hormones, like oxytocin, allow us
to compromise, bond us together and make the compromise required of
parenting easier,' she added.
But one subscriber to the site who preferred to remain nameless, disagrees.
'I know I would be a great mother if I
found the right father,' she told ABC. 'There are lots of ways to bring two
people together to have a child.
'Really, it's a matter of finding a
connection with someone else whose interest is, first and foremost in