'No man will ever love you because you're fat': How one woman overcame grandmother's taunts to discover sexual desire has nothing to do with size
17:44 GMT, 16 July 2012
When Rebecca Jane Weinstein was nine years old, her grandmother announced to her family that no man would ever love her because of her size.
After she was put on her first diet by a pediatrician shortly after, the lawyer and writer started a lifetime of eating disorders and terrible body image problems.
The author told Today: 'I started to get a little chubby around age 6… I've done a lot of work to be comfortable in own skin, but whatever size you are, you never get over that entirely. Those comments stick with you your whole life.'
Fat sex: When Rebecca Jane Weinstein (left) was nine, her grandmother announced to her family that no man would ever love her because of her size
Now, in an effort to counter perceptions
that large size people are unattractive and undesirable, asexual, or
not interested in sex, Ms Weinstein has written a book titled Fat Sex:
The Naked Truth.
Ms Weintein's goal, she said, is to challenge the ingrained notions society has about 'large size people' and sexual attraction.
She said: 'There is no difference between sizes as far as sex goes. Everyone is interested in what they're interested in. But it's not just sex, it's also romance and love.'
Opening discussion: Ms Weinstein has written a book titled Fat Sex: The Naked Truth, in an effort to counter perceptions that large size people are unattractive and undesirable, asexual, or not interested in sex
Facing a lack of discussion surrounding what has become a taboo topic, Ms Weinstein set out to collect dozens of real-life stories and experiences for her book.
She explained: 'I interviewed many people both men and women, and it's not just large size people who share their stories. Some people have eating disorders, some have had a lot of surgery. There are also those who appreciate large people as their partner preference.'
The Naked Truth: Ms Weinstein collected dozens of real-life stories and experiences for her book
She added: 'There are many themes [in
the book], but primarily it is about the the messages people are given
about size starting from very, very young. They believe that they just
No matter what your size, she said, troubles with body image resonates with many people.
Nutritionist Keri Glass, explained that body image, and whether you desire sex or feel worthy enough for sex, is all interwoven.
'Whether you are five pounds underweight or 125lbs overweight, society is so obsessed [with body image]. Women don't feel good about their bodies. All those images in our culture are damaging to anyone's self image.
'And damaging to their libido'.
Ms Weinstein added: 'This is a message of acceptance and understanding and empowerment.'
Fat Sex: the Naked Truth by Rebecca Jane Weinstein is available on Amazon.