My husband of ten years dumped me by text – and wed again six days later: Woman's shock after devoted partner turned bigamist
22:13 GMT, 9 October 2012
A woman has revealed how she was dumped by her husband of ten years via a text message.
When Lisa Arends received a text from the man she had loved for over 16 years, saying: 'I'm sorry to be such a coward to be leaving you this way, but I'm leaving you and I'm leaving the state,' she was understandably confused.
But when she found out he had married another woman six days later, the New York resident set out to have her bigamist husband thrown in jail.
Left high and dry: Lisa Arends' husband wrote via text message: 'I'm sorry to be such a coward to be leaving you this way, but I'm leaving you and I'm leaving the state'
She explained to the Jeff Probst show earlier today: '[The text] didn't make any sense to me at all. So I got on the computer and got into our accounts.
'Suddenly I see cards in both of our names maxed out. Cards that I didn't even know about with tens of thousands of dollars on them,' she said.
After talking with his other wife, who was as stunned by the situation as Ms Arends
was, she says, she slowly unraveled her husband's secret life.
Scorned wife: When the New York resident found out he had married another woman six days later, she set out to have her bigamist husband thrown in jail
'No woman should ever have to have a conversation about “our
husband,” even if it is a cordial and informative discussion,' the math teacher and wellness coach said.
It turned out he had 'two cameras, two bikes, two homes, and two wives'. And because in U.S. Supreme Court ruled in 1878 that plurality of wives, or polygamy,
as originally permitted by the Mormon religion, violated criminal law, her husband was arrested and jailed.
'I could have been a victim of circumstance, or I could have been a student of life. I chose the latter.'
A happier place: After using her own divorce as a catalyst for positive change, Ms Arends now helps people navigate their own divorces, and is the author of Lessons From the End of a Marriage
She continued: 'There is no shame for asking for help. I anchored myself through running and writing, all those things that gave me a sense of who I was.
'With the support of my friends and fmaily I've made it through, and made it to a better place'.
After using her own sudden divorce three years ago as a catalyst for positive change, Ms Arends now helps people navigate their own divorces, and is the author of Lessons From the End of a Marriage.