Mother who puts full make-up on FOUR-YEAR-OLD daughter subjected to online hate campaign
21:00 GMT, 30 April 2012
A mother who confessed to letting her four-year-old daughter wear 'a full face of make-up' has publicly defended herself after an online backlash from other parents.
Lindsay Cross wrote about her young daughter Brenna's interest in wearing make-up on the blog Mommyish, which prompted thousands of commenters to critique her parenting style.
Ms Cross told ABC News: 'When I wrote the piece I didn't think it was that monumental of a deal. I didn't think that it was something that was just too out of the norm.'
Playing 'mummy': Defending herself, Lindsay Cross said her daughter's make-up is another way of having fun, 'it's dress-up and playing pretend. It's playing that she's older,' she said
The mother said she didn't anticipate the intense reaction from the online community, and defended herself by maintaining her daughter's make-up is just 'child's play'.
Reactions to Ms Cross's article ranged from parents who accused her of stealing her daughter's innocence, allowing the toddler to fall prey to society's notions of beauty at too young an age, to people who compared her parenting with the show Toddler's and Tiaras.
However one commenter wrote: 'Please don't help your daughters fall into the “pretty” trap so young.'
Another deemed the practice bad parenting: 'It is not cute. It is not funny. It is poor parenting.'
However Ms Cross upheld that Brenna's make-up 'is just a way for her to be like her mom'.
said: 'I don't think that she puts two and two together, where you have
to wear make-up so that you can present yourself to the world.'
Bonding ritual: Lindsay Cross wrote about her 4-year-old daughter Brenna's interest in wearing make-up, which prompted thousands of commenters to critique her parenting style
In her original article, Ms Cross wrote: 'Every holiday, performance, or any other event that she deems
necessarily fancy, we pick out a pretty dress, curl her hair and then we
apply a little make-up.
The mother continued: 'She sits in front of the mirror smiling as I apply a little blush to her
cheeks and eye shadow to her eyes. Sometimes I don’t even put any
actual make-up on, I just run the brushes over her skin. It doesn’t
change the fun for her.'
Ms Cross said that she tells her
daughter she doesn't have to wear make-up to be beautiful, but that she
is allowed to 'because she feels the prettiest when she puts it on'.
Like mother like daughter: Ms Cross said that Brenna's make-up is a part of dress-up, and 'a way for her to be like her mom'
she intends to have a more serious conversation regarding make-up when
Brenna is older, for now Ms Cross wants her daughter to enjoy being a
Defending herself, she said: 'Now it's dress-up and playing pretend. It's playing that she's older.'
She added: 'And I think that as she gets to be a bit older, she'll look at it differently, and well talk about it differently.'
On Mommyish.com, Ms Cross chose to respond further, after her interview with ABC: 'I choose to try to keep makeup in the right sphere for us, something fun but not always necessary.
She explained: 'I try not to make a big deal out of something that I don’t want my daughter fixating on. And I hope that this will let her have a relaxed attitude about makeup and beauty products in the future.'
Since Ms Cross spoke out, defending her decision to let her daughter play with make-up, opinions shifted slightly.
commenter wrote: 'My daughters are all grown up and have daughters of
their own and my granddaughters (4 yrs old) play in make-up just as
their mothers did. It is a bonding time and I enjoyed it!! Don’t let the
public opinion take this special time away from you and your
commented: 'Not a big deal at all! I wear make-up and my girls 3 and 4
sometimes ask if they can have some gloss or some eyeshadow, and I too pretend to put blush on sometimes.'