Meet Mr Perfect: New research says he earns 48,000, drives an Audi and always rings his mum. These men (almost) fit the bill!
23:53 GMT, 9 May 2012
Most women would agree that there’s no such thing as the perfect man, and that true love is all about chemistry and the art of compromise. But there are some things nearly all of us desire in a man — that’s if a survey of 2,000 British women is to be believed. So what actually constitutes Mr Perfect
According to the research by clothing store Austin Reed, there are 30 boxes a man must tick to be a modern-day Prince Charming. The 2,000 women questioned agreed Mr Right eats meat, drives an Audi and earns around 48,000 a year. He’s also 6ft tall, has short, dark hair, brown eyes and stylish dress sense. He is clean-shaven and has a smooth, hair-free chest.
Mr Perfect also has a deeply sensitive side — he rings his mother regularly, tells you he loves you only when he means it, and will admit it when he eyes up other women. We found four men who fit the male perfection bill and gave them a grilling in search of any chinks in their armour. . .
THE SENSITIVE SCRIBE: Mr Perfect score: 29 out of 30
Danny Dareen, 32, is a novelist and screenplay writer from Harrow-on-the-Hill, North London. He is single and says:
Danny Dareen: 'I've only ever slept with two women'
My novel, Begotten Son, tells the story of a couple who put their love first and decide they can’t live without each other. Women tell me it’s unusual to find a man who thinks so romantically: I think that’s what makes me most desirable to the opposite sex.
All men have a sensitive side — I am just unusual in that I have tapped into mine. I’ve only slept with two women. I don’t do one-night stands. I can only make love to a woman for whom I have strong feelings.
When I date a woman, I treat her well. I read her body language to try to gauge how she’s feeling, and I find out what interests her. If she likes horse-riding, I arrange a date doing that. If she likes candlelit dinners, I set one up.
I never approach women because I’m quiet and shy, but they often chat me up.
I’ve been told I look like George Michael and Elvis Presley, and I like to be stylish, buying my clothes from Top Man and Zara. Some women have told me I dress like Peter Andre.
My main relationship was five years ago. We started chatting at a bus-stop and it turned out we were both from Iraq. But she came from a strict family, and they’d already lined up a husband for her.
We met in complete secrecy for two years, and it broke my heart when she had to obey her family and marry the other man. I was so upset, I couldn’t leave the house for two weeks.
I wouldn’t presume to consider myself the ideal man. I fall short on this list because I left Iraq as a refugee before I could get my degree, although I hope to do it one day.
Anyone can seem perfect on the outside; it’s the chemistry between two people that makes it right, not the boxes they tick.
A lot of my friends say that once you’re married, you have to let go of your dreams, and I’m not ready for that just yet. I’m finishing another book and I want to do some more acting and directing, so maybe I’m not perfect for anyone at the moment.
THE ROVING ROMEO: Mr Perfect score: 28 out of 30
James Edgington, 28, from Bolton, is a radio producer and presenter, actor and singer. He has never been in a long-term relationship. He says:
I often tour the country appearing in musicals and shows. I never set out to be a heartbreaker, but some women might consider I have a girl in every port. I never mean to hurt anyone, and I try to be honest with girls from the outset. I get chatted up quite a lot when I go out — women say they like my boyish looks, but right now, my career comes first.
I notice that the ‘perfect man
check-list’ for this survey includes a man only telling a woman he loves
her when he means it. That’s certainly true of me: I have never said it
to any woman I’ve dated.
of my girlfriends told me she loved me once, so I responded by saying:
‘Those are big words.’ It wouldn’t have been fair to lie to her.
I look in the mirror, I’m happy with what I see. I’m not being
arrogant, but my parents were attractive and I’ve inherited their genes.
James Edgington: 'I'm not arrogant but I've got handsome genes'
If I could change anything, I’d pump up my chest because it’s a bit skinny. I don’t like it being hairy, so once a month I use a hair removal cream.
As a modern man, I feel a duty to look after myself. I moisturise my face, and I straighten my hair. I see a personal trainer once a week, and I also play tennis to keep myself in shape.
I like cool clothes but I don’t go over the top. I shop at River Island, Zara and House of Fraser — nothing flashy. I bought my black Audi A1 a few months ago. I knew I’d look good in it — it’s the right car for the stage I am at in life.
My attitude to relationships has been affected by the death of my mother, Jennifer, in a car accident when I was only 16 months old. She was 24. My parents were so happy and in love that they set a very high standard for what I want in a relationship.
My father and I set up a charity in my mother’s name at jennifercharity.co.uk to support widowed fathers and their children.
I didn’t score a perfect 30 because I don’t ring my mother twice a week — I can’t. I lose another point because my priority is my career, rather than a family, but I hope I can be perfect for the right woman when she comes along.
THE SHY SMOOTHIE: Mr Perfect score: 28 out of 30
Business development manager Bin Donaldson, 29, lives in Chichester, West Sussex, with his girlfriend, Suzanne O’Neill, 28. He says:
The modern woman says she wants a man who is not too hairy, and I’m happy to admit I have my back waxed once a fortnight. It hurts like hell, but I hate the thought of hair sprouting from my shoulders. I’m having laser treatment, which cost me 600, but the hair on my back will be gone for good when the treatment is complete.
It’s great to score so highly on the perfect man list, but I wouldn’t have done so a few years ago. I was 4st overweight then, had shoulder-length hair and was a smoker.
Modern men: Bin Donaldson gets his back waxed twice a month, left, while Sebastien Delecour likes to look good for his wife
I missed out on the perfect score because I don’t have a degree — I left school as soon as I could, and was educated at the ‘university of life’ instead.
My girlfriend, Suzanne, is a trainee accountant, and we’ve been together for 18 months after meeting through friends at a barbecue.
To my mind, the perfect man is tall, dark, good-looking, rich, confident, happy in himself and secure. I don’t see myself as perfect because I don’t think I’m handsome.
I’m a business development manager and I would hope to be able to offer a woman a secure future — but most of all a happy one.
HIS GIRLFRIEND SAYS: I’ve had a few long-term relationships, and Bin ticks more boxes than any other man. I feel lucky to have found him because he is a caring guy. I don’t agree with Bin that he’s not handsome — he is, but he’s hard on himself.
He cares about how he looks, but not so much that I come home to find him tweezing his eyebrows in the mirror!
There have been teething problems since we moved in together, mainly over housework and him leaving his clothes on the floor, but we usually resolve it with some sarcasm. Bin’s in touch with how he feels, so we communicate well. He’s definitely perfect for me.
THE FLIRTY FRENCHMAN: Mr Perfect score: 29 out of 30
Frenchman Sebastien Delecour, 40, runs an events company in Richmond, Surrey. He and his wife Clotilde, 36, a fashion buyer, have been married for 11 years and have three children, Brune, eight, Charlie, five, and Archibald, ten months. Sebastien says:
THE PERFECT MAN CHECK-LIST6ft tall
Muscly, toned and athleticBrown eyesShort, dark hairSmart dress senseStylishA beer or lager drinkerA non-smokerWears smart jeans, shirt and a V-neck jumperGets ready in 17 minutesEarns around 48,000 a yearWants a familyLoves shoppingEats meatWatches soapsClean-shavenSmooth-chestedEnjoys watching footballDrives an AudiEducated to degree levelEarns more than youJokes around and has a laughSensitive when you are upsetTells you he loves you only when he means itAdmits it when he looks at other womenHolds a driving licenceCan swimCan ride a bikeCan change a tyreRings his mother regularly
I believe in looking good for my wife — she is an attractive woman, and I want to keep seducing her. I dress well, and I do British military fitness work-outs twice a week.
Clotilde told me the other day that she thought I fitted the bill for the perfect man — not just because I drive an Audi, but because I’m good-looking, too.
Most women want romance, but I don’t believe in it. Some women might want a partner to tell them they love them every day, but that’s not for me. I don’t need to tell Clotilde I love her because it’s understood between us.
She can see for herself because I am there whenever she needs me.
Once or twice a month, Clotilde and I go out together clothes shopping without the children. I value her opinion about what looks good on me. In an average month, I might spend 300 — sometimes more than Clotilde spends.
It’s interesting that British women want a man to admit when he eyes up other women. Clotilde has absolutely no problem with me looking at other women.
She is very confident and relaxed.
I don’t know whether other women find me attractive. My wife thinking that I’m perfect is good enough for me.
HIS WIFE SAYS: It’s funny that having an Audi makes Sebastien perfect because we’ve rowed about it since he bought it. It’s too big for me to park!
Sebastien is not romantic — I’d be waiting a long time for a big diamond for our anniversary — but we have fun and he’s a lovely guy, and that’s good enough for me.’