It's not me, it's you: New app promises to help find out why your relationship ended
'We just grew apart' – la Seal and Heidi Klum, who have just announced their separation – is no longer enough information when it comes to unpicking the causes of a failed relationship, it seems.
A new website and phone app, WotWentWrong, puts estranged couples in touch with each other via an online form, giving them third party distance that may offer the only solution when it comes to relationship debriefs.
Using special templates to draft letters to exes, a confused ex – or a glutton for punishment – may request feedback on what exactly nudged the relationship south.
Unhappy relations: A new app helps draft letters to exes, so a confused ex – or a glutton for punishment – may request feedback on why a relationship headed south
11 templates offer different styles of approaching the tricky subject, from 'flippant' to 'cool', and 'philosophical' to 'not that into me'.
The 'flattering' template gives a dash of ego-boosting positivity before delivering the blow: 'I think you’re a fantastic person. We had some great moments together, but obviously something has happened to change things.'
Another, the 'philosophical', is perhaps a giveaway that a helping hand was involved when it came to the letter's contents.
'Benjamin Franklin once said, “An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest”', it reads. 'And I'd really like to know what went wrong with us. Just for my benefit.'
Where did it all go wrong The form breaks lost love down into bare essentials and is hoped to provide feedback for curious newly-singles
Prompting lines give a rough structure to work with and users are invited to add more details. Tips are provided along the way, some of which are perhaps more obvious than others: 'Finish up the letter, try to be nice :)'
Once complete, the missive is emailed to an ex, who is given time and a set of templates to draft an honest, if somewhat forced, reply.
In what may be interpreted by some as emotional blackmail, the answers to a set of 'tease questions' – such as 'did you find X attractive' and 'rate X's performance in bed' – are only divulged to an ex after feedback has been given.
Debrief: Seal and Heidi Klum say they grew apart – but could WotWentWrong help them learn more We guess it may suit those who know each other less well
The site's creators hope the evaluations for curious singletons will deliver 'insights and behaviors to ensure your relationship goals'.
Their blog suggests that the app is particularly helpful for those who never hear from a love interest after a first date or those relationships that ended after 'premature admissions' of the oft-fateful three words: I love you.
We suggest that couples who are unable to respectfully speak face to face or by phone – and need a digital form to prioritise emotions – may well be better off without one another, after all.