How Katie filed for divorce 'after becoming sick of controlling Tom'… but THAT raunchy magazine cover was the final straw
Mission Impossible star 'deeply saddened' by wife's decision to end union
Actor said 'I am very lucky to be married to her' just two weeks agoTold crowd at Friar's Club event that 'amazing' Katie made his suit
Couple led separate lives in recent months, with Katie refusing to join him on Rock of Ages promotional tourKatie felt 'like a robot'
Tom's lewd W magazine cover left her 'speechless' with disgust
Katie's parents 'pleased to have their daughter back'
Couple seen holding hands in Iceland VERY recently
05:06 GMT, 30 June 2012
Katie Holmes was scared she was turning 'into a robot' while with Tom Cruise.
The former Dawson’s Creek actress – who has filed for divorce from the ‘Rock of Ages’ star after five years of marriage – felt like she had changed 'so much' in her time with Tom.
Sources close to the 33-year-old, who played innocent Joey in the popular teen drama, told friends she had found her relationship with the megastar, 49, had become 'too much' for her.
Split: Katie Holmes felt like 'a robot' because of Tom's controlling ways
A source said: 'After five years of
this Katie really felt like she was going crazy and that she was
actually turning into the robot that the press had always made her out
'Katie has actually got a great
personality and she used to be spunky and feisty. She changed so much
when she was with Tom, she became downtrodden and insipid.
'In the end it just got too much, she
was sick of it and decided she had to do something. Basically, she grew
up and lost the starstruck goggles she had been wearing.'
Katie is reportedly seeking full custody of their six-year-old daughter Suri after beginning to question her life with Tom and his control of their decision making.
Separate lives: Katie and her daughter Suri were spotted in New York yesterday
The source added to RadarOnline.com:
'Katie did not want Tom making all the decisions in Suri's life, and
that's what was going on. She decided it was high time she started
deciding on what was best for her daughter, or at least having an equal
say, and she knew that would be impossible if she remained Mrs. Tom
Holmes's lawyer Jonathan Wolfe made it clear what his client's priority is in a statement to People magazine: 'Katie's primary concern remains, as it always has been, her daughter's best interest.'
But Katie's parents are happy to have their baby back, too.
A source told RadarOnline.com: 'It's been tough for them over the past five years to watch Katie be controlled by Tom and they really felt that they had lost their daughter to some extent.'
Cover boy: Tom's pose on W magazine is said to have infuriated Katie
'So, that's the one bright side to the divorce — they feel like they're getting the old Katie back again.'
But it does appear that Tom really was blindsided by his wife of five years, as he gushed about her at a ceremony to accept his Friars Club Foundation Award just two weeks ago.
Tom who took his children Suri, 6, and Connor, 17, as dates to the event, said after he picked up his award: 'My wife who couldn't be here tonight, I have to thank, she made this suit for me. She's amazing. I'm very lucky to be married to her.
He then added, according to Usmagazine: 'She's in China working.'
'And my oldest daughter, Bella, couldn't be here. She's also working. The women are all working!'
A spokesperson for Cruise, who is currently in Iceland filming his new sci-fi movie Oblivion, said: 'Kate has filed for divorce and Tom is deeply saddened and is concentrating on his three children.'
The actress filed documents in New York this week citing 'irreconcilable differences'.
Focused on work: Tom was pictured on filming his new movie Oblivion in Iceland on Wednesday
SURI IN THE MIDDLE
A bitter custody battle is set to break out between Tom and Katie over their young daughter, Suri (pictured in New York last week).
The actress is seeking sole legal custody and primary residential custody of the six-year-old, and a 'suitable amount of child support'.
She even filed for divorce in New York – rather than California – because the East Coast state doesn't like giving feuding parents joint power to make decisions for their children, according to TMZ.
But sources say the actor may mount a fight to bring the case to California, which favors joint legal custody.
But sources have suggested that Tom's absence – he has been on a promotional tour and filming he's new movie – was started to take a toll on his young daughter's behaviour.
The estranged couple are raising Suri in accordance with the doctrine of the Church of Scientology – treating her as an adult, free to make her own decisions.
But there is now speculation Katie no longer wants her daughter to follow the controversial religion.
She has asked for legal custody, primary
residential custody and a 'suitable amount' of child support from her
husband, TMZ reports.
Miss Holmes is also asking for a
division of property in the divorce documents, although there is a
significant pre-nuptial agreement that is based on California law.
The couple are worth around $275 million – much of that owing to Tom's box office success.
The terms of the pre-nup are understood to be clear – for each year the couple stay married, the Dawson's Creek actress collects $3million – to a maximum of $33 million after 11 years – as well as their palatial home in California.
If their marriage had lasted more than 11 years, Holmes would have received half of Cruises’s reportedly $250 million fortune.
After filing for divorce less than six years later, according to the agreement, Katie should only be entitled to $15 million as well as the couple's $35 million Beverly Hills Mansion
But with an estate worth upwards of $275 million, Katie is expected to seek much more and there is already intense speculation as to how much she will collect when the papers are signed.
Cruise is believed to have 'not seen' the divorce coming.
But sources insist that she did tell her husband of five-and-a-half years that she was filing for divorce – but she didn’t give him a chance to control the spread of the news, as he did with Nicole Kidman.
The fact that she issued a solo statement speaks of some heat around the final extinguishing of the marriage.
However, Mr Cruise's shock is to be believed considering the fact that the pair were spotted together in Iceland around two weeks ago, holding hands.
Nevertheless, Miss Holmes failed to turn up to at
any of the worldwide premieres of her husband’s latest film Rock of
Ages, despite Cruise’s constant protestations of love for his wife.
final arguments seem to have been over where Cruise was going to spend
his 50th birthday on Tuesday. He told her that he was planning to be on
the set of his latest film Oblivion, in Iceland, and that seems to have
been the last straw.
statuesque brunette had frequently been pictured looking drawn and
exhausted during her marriage. One Hollywood source said she had been
‘utterly miserable with Tom for months, if not years’.
Apart: Katie, seen here with Suri on June 26, did not join Tom, pictured right on June 8, as he promoted Rock of Ages
Indeed, the row over his birthday
followed another bust-up over what Miss Holmes felt were embarrassingly
bad taste pictures of him on the cover of W magazine last month.
He was dressed – or rather undressed –
as the rock star Stacee Jaxx, the character he plays in Rock of Ages.
Two half-dressed blondes were wrapped around him, one licking his face.
Miss Holmes, a nice girl from Ohio who
is nevertheless very aware of why Cruise feels the need to play the
macho card in public, was apparently ‘speechless’ with disgust and felt
the pictures laid both of them open to ridicule.
Carrying the load: Katie has been left looking after Suri on her own this month – pictured here on June 14, June 19 and June 22
Team Cruise: The actor's son Connor was spotted boarding a helicopter in Reykjavik, Iceland, today
The marriage has been in such poor shape that for the past year they have led almost entirely separate lives.
Miss Holmes has chosen to stay with Suri in Cruise’s New York apartment while he has travelled the world working.
The little girl has been her constant
and only companion. They are often out together until late, and Miss
Holmes – who gave up all the threads of her old life to become Mrs Tom
Cruise – seems to have no other friends at all.
A shopping and sundries budget reputed to run at $125,000-a- month (80,000) could only keep her amused for so long.
One Hollywood source said today: ‘It
was an open secret that she was utterly miserable with Tom, and had been
for months if not years. They really couldn’t drag out the pretence any
Another source added: ‘Katie spent
her time avoiding him, and they rowed terribly.’ When Cruise was filming
Rock of Ages in Miami, Miss Holmes came along with Suri and they made a
family holiday of it. But since then they have spent no more than a
handful of nights under the same roof.
Miss Holmes, who used to have a
poster of Cruise on her bedroom wall, found that being married to an
intense, workaholic, and deeply religious megastar was no picnic.
In pictures of her going about her
daily business she looked completely worn out. Her brown hair was
prematurely grey, she never wore make up. One shapeless cardigan was
succeeded by another baggy jumper.
No sign of trouble: The couple smiled and held hands in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, in one of the last pictures of them together
Those close to her said that she felt he wasn’t putting any effort into her or the marriage.
Her once promising film career – she
had been the love interest in Batman Begins – had been stifled. Roles
evaporated. She ended up trying to find work as a fashion designer,
endorsing the line Holmes and Yang.
The bigger picture is that this is
the end of the third of Cruise’s marriages and a spectacular failure of
his strategy to relaunch himself as a ‘regular guy’.
And if the union was supposed to
cease gossip about Cruise and his personal life, in particular rumours
of his homosexuality – always denied – it failed utterly.
The couple’s 2006 Italian wedding was
choreographed like a massive movie premiere, with more bodyguards than
guests and the ultimate goal seemingly the fantastically romantic images
which were released to the media of the A list star and his pretty
This came in the wake of the president of Paramount Sumner Redstone complaining that women found the actor ‘creepy.’
Dream wedding: The pair married in an Italian castle in 2006
Katie issued a solo statement announcing the couple's divorce, hinting at some heat around the final extinguishing of the marriage.
Holmes's attorney Jonathan Wolf said: 'This is a personal and private matter for Katie and her family. Katie's primary concern remains, as it always has been, her daughter's best interest.'
Tom's spokesperson soon responded – made it clear it was the actress who ended the relationship.
'Kate has filed for divorce and Tom is deeply saddened and is concentrating on his three children,' the statement read. 'Please allow them their privacy to work this out.'
When the romance began – Katie had
met Tom to discuss the possibility of appearing in Mission Impossible
III – she was immediately sent on an intensive and lengthy study course
about Scientology, the religion founded by sci-fi author L Ron Hubbard
in 1954, which holds that humans are descended from an exiled race of
aliens called Thetans.
She was ‘audited’ by Scientology
counsellors, and unlike Penelope Cruz and Nicole Kidman before her, has
totally embraced the movement.
Cruise proposed on June 17, 2005 on
the top of the Eiffel Tower following a famously embarrassing
declaration of his love on Oprah Winfrey’s show, where he jumped up on
the couch yelling ‘I’m in love, I’m in love, I can’t be cool, I can’t be
Despite earlier reports that there
would be a Roman Catholic ceremony of some sort – Katie was born a
Catholic – it was a Scientology wedding. What’s more it was conducted by
David Miscavige, Tom Cruise’s best friend who is the head of the
Crazy in love: Tom, giddy over his budding relationship with Katie, famously jumped on Oprah Winfrey's couch in 2005
Suri's first shoot: The couple presented their daughter to the world on the cover of Vanity Fair in 2006, five months after her birth
From the outset Miss Holmes struggled
to ever settle in their Los Angeles mansion. Cass Mapother is a key
figure here, Tom’s sister – and she and her three sons share the house
with Tom and his two adopted children Conor, 17, and Isabella, 19. But Miss
Holmes never felt that the massive mansion, stuffed with bodyguards, was
her home. Everyone who came through the doors was a Scientologist.
His devotion to the religion meant
that he was widely regarded as ‘weird’. Andrew Morton unauthorised
biography repeated claims that Suri was thought by some to have been
conceived using the frozen sperm of Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard.
This suggestion infuriated Cruise, friends describing it as ‘sick,
offensive and very upsetting’.
You wonder, though, if he will be all the more damaged still by what has happened to Katie Holmes.
Before they met she was a natural
beauty, and her physical decline in the five and a half years that
followed is almost shockingly obvious.
How will Tom – the sofa jumper who wants so desperately to be loved – ever get over this
MIMI, NICOLE AND PENELOPE… THREE MORE WHO DIDN'T LAST
MIMI ROGERS: Cruise married
actress Rogers in May 1987; they
divorced in February 1990. Rogers
is believed to have introduced
Cruise to Scientology.
NICOLE KIDMAN: The couple married
in December 1990. They
adopted two children, Isabella
Jane and Connor Antony, but
separated in February 2001.
PENELOPE CRUZ: Cruise began
dating the Spanish beauty in
2001. They co-starred in
the movie Vanilla Sky, but split
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