Guys agonise over texting too How composing the perfect message is the most frustrating part of dating for men
22:00 GMT, 14 May 2012
The days of poetic love letters are long gone and these days love-struck singles must compose witty, engaging missives short enough to translate over text message.
But according to one men's interest website, for single males, writing the perfect text to a woman can be a puzzling and infuriating task.
In a recent survey, a majority of participants agreed it created more of an issue than approaching a woman in the first place and even knowing what to say after that awkward first kiss.
No Shakespeare: According to a new survey by TSB Magazine, men find it increasingly difficult to know what to say in a text message to a woman
PR Web reports that TSB Magazine, a website providing sex and dating advice for men, presented readers a list of traditionally confusing aspects of dating.
Of all the most obvious potential pitfalls, when to text and what to write took top place as the most hazardous areas when it came to dating.
Thanks to modern technology, flirting via text between dates now creates yet more opportunity through which potential paramours can hope to impress each other.
But a poorly composed message, or a misunderstood punctuation mark can sabotage even the most innocent affairs and according to TSB readers, the decision of what to write when can be a confusing game.
Even too many messages can be a deal breaker when it comes to keeping a girl interested, according to TSB Magazine founder Bobbi Rio, who has made quite a business of positioning himself as an expert on the subject.
Of the candidates who took part in the survey, 32 per cent voted texting as their number one issue while 22 per cent admitted that knowing how to rescue an awkward conversation with an attractive woman was a significant hurdle.
Following closely behind, 18 per cent of men complained that is is often hard to know when and how to 'lean in' for the uncomfortable first kiss and negotiate the cringe-inducing conversation that precedes and follows the moment.
Surprisingly, most men showed no issue with the notion of sidling up to a lady and initiating conversation and only 12 per cent confessed that summoning up the courage to do so presented a challenge.
So worrisome is the pressure of creating the perfect text, Mr Rio has published more than a dozen books already purporting to hold the key to attracting a woman's attention and have her falling at a man's feet.
In his latest, Magnetic Messaging, Mr Rio describes the 'key-lock' sequence, a series of three short messages that he believes is a sure-fire way to guarantee a triumph.
Among other 'useful' tips, Mr Rio insists his followers never write anything to tune of: 'How's your day going', 'What you up 2' or 'Hey.'
Let's hope there's more to his theory than that.