Granny is my wingman! How blog relating online dating experiences of one girl and her grandmother became internet hit
For most people, a grandparent is the last person they would want to hit the dating scene with.
New Yorker Kayli Stollak, however, has found the perfect wingman, albeit a virtual one, in the form of her Florida-based grandmother, Gail, who is also looking for a good match.
The 24-year-old, who is not looking for a husband but is ready for a relationship, has become an internet hit after recording the details of their cross-generational online dating adventures on her blog, grannyismywingman.com.
Single girls: Kayli Stollak has enjoyed huge success with her blog, which compares her dating experiences with those of her “Granny Gail”
Heavy on the septuagenarian”s hilarious one-liners, the blog, which attracted 30,000 hits in its first month alone, is as much an homage to her sharp-tongued grandmother as it is an experiment in modern-day romance.
It details the differences in their approach to relationships as well as the similarities, of which there are surprisingly many.
To Kayli, a previously unmarried, self-confessed foodie and enthusiast on the dance floor sounded like an appealing date for her grandmother.
Gail disagreed: “”Big eater” He mustbe a real heffer. “Never married” Psychopath. “Likes to salsa dance” Yeah right, he’s 78, I bet he can barely walk.”
While sharing the excitement and pitfalls of being checked out online, Kayli and Gail have encouraged each other to remain realistic and keep positive.
After being stood up for the first time, Kayli writes: “Granny offered up a gem in condolence, “Better he stands ya up now, than at the alter.” So true, so true.”
Online virgins: An early post on Kayli”s blog describes how she joined OKCupid and simultaneously signed her grandmother up on JDate
The two singles have even developed a shared set of rules they hope will keep them sane during the online dating process. The most important of all: Manage your expectations and don”t take it too seriously.
In an interview with MailOnline, Kayli, who ended a four year relationship last summer, revealed that neither she nor Gail were keen on the idea of online dating at first.
Her interest was only piqued after seeing how happy her older sister was with the boyfriend she had met on Match.com.
KAYLI AND GAIL”S TOP FIVE ONLINE DATING RULES
Manage expectations: Don’t take yourself or the experience too seriously. Online dating is overwhelming and you can feel like you’re being judged. It should be fun, not crazy-making.
Know when to take a break: If you feel like you’re a little jaded from the rejection or lack of successful dates, take a break from it and come back to it with a refreshed attitude.
Don’t be short-sighted: Go on dates with some people who fit your criteria and others that don’t because you never know who you might meet and it’s good for you to stray from your comfort zone once in a while.
Be honest: Don’t lie about books you have read and how much you travel if you haven’t been anywhere.
Find a wingman: Makea friend sign up with you or at least help you create your profile. It’s fun to have someone to laugh about it with and who can console you when it’s not going well.
Forher grandmother, it was time to get out there and have a bit of fun. The film graduate revealed: “Granny has been single for decades and is too entertaining to be alone.”
But for a girl who had met her ex-boyfriend on the street in an impulsive New York moment, the idea of creating a profile on OKCupid and making it public seemed creepy.
Her grandmother struggled with her JDate profile too. She wanted to lie about her age and remain as vague as possible in an attempt to avoid giving too much away.
But she realised it was the little details about a person, like where they grew up, that mattered to her and so she expanded on her own information and resorted to honesty.
“The older generations come to the table with more…” Kayli explained. “They”re more shaped by life and their experiences.”
In the weeks since, her grandmother has embraced it with huge enthusiasm.
“At the beginning she was impossible,” Kayli says. “Now she”s chatting upmen at the deli counter in Wholefoods.”
Her own experiences have been positive too.
She says her favourite date so far had been a rock climbing expedition with a man from New Mexico, who she said was curiously odd and “cerebral”.
Heradvice is to “date some people who fit your criteria and some who don”t.
“You never know who you”re going to be meet and it”s fun to get to know people completely outside your normal parameters of interest.”
Both have dates lined up for January, but thus far, Gail has rejected any suitors who want to go out on New Year”s Eve.
She told Kayli: “None of them want to spend New Year”s kind of money and none of them should be out driving that late.”