Forget the nightmare bride – wedding planner reveals 'groomzillas' are her biggest challenge



16:09 GMT, 5 April 2012

Reality shows have been made about them and friendships have known to be put on temporary time-outs because of them, but according to some, bridezillas are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to soon-to-wed couples.

'Groomzillas' are a new, even more challenging breed of wedding tyrant that when given the reins of the planning process can become selfish, unruly and overpowering.

Though traditionally the groom is charged with organising the rehearsal dinner, with gender roles being redefined and responsibilities split at home, often the groom is left with more to do than the bride.

Smiling bride: The rise of the 'groomzilla' means planners are having to deal with unruly, bossy men rather than hysterical women

Smiling bride: The rise of the 'groomzilla' means planners are having to deal with unruly, bossy men rather than hysterical women

One anonymous wedding planner based in the South revealed in a Buzzfeed post that she has seen an increase in the number of grooms taking control of the organising as their fiancees concentrate on grad school or advance their academic studies.

And while many are very efficient with their commendable ability to create and navigate a spreadsheet, some can get a little too big for their boots.

'[Some] think they need a special drink at the bar because it’s “their day”. Or who want to know, how come they can’t take more shots at the reception Because it’s “their day,”' she wrote.

Alcohol it seems is a key stumbling block when it comes to a groom's involvement and not just the ordering and serving of it.

She continued: 'I worked on a wedding where the bride surprised the groom with an Irish car bomb station, and he got so drunk at the end of the night that he puked all over himself in the getaway car. No one saw but she had to clean it up – on her wedding night – which is awful.'

But one self-described 'groomzilla' says giving the groom a job like drinks and bar set up is a good way to get them focused on one thing and out of the way of the rest of the planning.

In a video for, Mr Bridger, author of a book entitled, Surviving Groomzilla: A Bride's Guide, described a 'groomzilla' as 'the biggest baddest beast in the wedding jungle'.

'Bridezillas want to be princesses,' he added, recalling his own experience. 'But groomzilla's want to be gods.'

Stories of theatrics and hysteria from bossy and stressed out grooms are on the rise and it's only a matter of time until they are transported onto the screen for reality show fans' delight.

Mr Bridger suggested that in the meantime brides should give their husbands-to-be a simple small task and build it up so they believe that their role is more important than it perhaps is in reality.

But Buzzfeed's anonymous expert disagreed, opining: 'Men should do music and rehearsal dinner and stay out of the rest.'