Forget online dating! Meet the 'sex doctor' who turns theatre into a venue for love – teaching singles how to Never Sleep Alone
19:46 GMT, 6 April 2012
Online dating is so last season.
It used to be so fashionable, so
adventurous, so 21st Century – some even considered it so risque.
Now it's just another tried and tested way of dating, and singletons are bored.
Unusual and exciting ways for everybody to try and find a 'somebody' have been popping up everywhere, whether it be a long-term partner, one-night stand or even just a friend with benefits.
In with the new: Run by Dr Alex (center) Never Sleep Alone – part cabaret, part dating seminar spoof show – is currently taking New York by storm and will soon be coming to a city near you
One desperate woman used her
grandma as her wing woman – it worked. Just this week a couple got married after meeting on Chatroulette – a site which allows users to chat to total strangers via a webcam.
Then of course there are the apps for smart phones that enable users to
cruise people in the same area – also known in the legal and criminal world as stalking.
But what about going back to basics What about meeting someone on a good old-fashioned night out
Actually meeting someone in the flesh and thinking: 'Wow, I feel some
chemistry here', or 'I find you really
It's hardly a new concept, but one
'sex doctor' is putting a new and unique spin on that by combining a new
kind of dating with a new type of theater – and it's working.
Dating guru: Dr Alex Schiller – played by Roslyn Hart – is a sexual psychologist and music therapist who brings the hot, the single and the curious together
Never Sleep Alone is a show currently taking New York by storm and
will soon be coming to a city near you.
cabaret, part dating-seminar-spoof show, it is run by Dr Alex Shiller – a sexual psychologist and music therapist who brings the hot, the single and the curious together for a night of delirious laughter, awesome music and socio-sensual interaction.
Dr Alex insists that her audience be filled with the sexy and seeking because she is going to introduce them to a new type of dating.
show is divided into 'singles' – people who want to meet or hook-up
with someone, and 'voyeurs' – those who want to see the action but aren't
looking for a hook-up.
The concept goes like this: The singles are seated closer to the stage
at communal tables, so before the show even starts attendees are forced
to mingle with perfect strangers.
When it does start, Dr Alex – played
Roslyn Hart – springs on to the stage like a foxy dominatrix-come-sexual
evangelist who everyone in the room is going to listen to
and obey, such is her stage presence.
obey they do. Walking through the 'singles' section of the audience,
she picks random strangers and tells them to kiss each other, swap phone
numbers, sit on knees – whatever she feels is appropriate, or more likely inappropriate.
Punctuating the show with mash ups of
current music and old favorites,
Dr Alex also dispenses advice from her upcoming dating book Get Laid Or
Die Trying to ensure that everyone in the audience will 'Never Sleep
Belting through the songs and getting the audience to chant dating mantras, this
is as interactive a show and dating experience as anyone will ever encounter.
New way of dating: Two lucky (and single) audience members are plucked from obscurity and brought onstage by Dr Alex as she encourages them to do things strangers probably should never do
Strangers kiss, cuddle, caress, play games and do lots of other things
that strangers should not do to each other. And they enjoy it.
ensues is an hour of raucous laughter, sexual chemistry, boundary pushing and a lot of 'Oh my gods' and 'LOLs'.
Complimentary Champagne, love
questionnaires and theatrical masks a la Eyes Wide Shut help to add to
the party atmosphere, which is all drawn to a conclusion at the secret
after party – where audience members can seek out each other in the hope
of Never Sleeping Alone.
'For days after every show, we had audience
members calling to tell us about the person they
went home with, kissed or swapped numbers with'
Some people would balk at the idea of
having to interact with a total stranger on stage in front of a room
full of people. Some singletons don't even have the nerve to go up and
talk to perfect strangers.
But the beauty of the show is that Dr Alex encourages audience members to cross their boundaries and do things they would never imagine.
Roslyn Hart explains the concept: 'Imagine a Learning Annex Seminar that's happening at a Mega-church. Except you're allowed to drink and you're encouraged to fornicate. Dr Alex is preaching the gospel of getting it on.
Eyes Wide Shut: Audience members are given colored masks and encouraged to seek out those in the same color for flirtation purposes
'So, if you are tired of boring internet dating, you can come to an event where people are there for the same reason as you – because they are looking for a hook-up.
'I tell people, if you’re sitting up
front, you may get pulled onstage. You may be asked to
touch someone. You may be touched. So be O.K. with that.
'I thought of doing the show after chatting with friends and listening to people talk about how difficult it is to date or hook up with someone. Even online dating seems to have lost its sparkle.
'Once we tried it once, we realized that the format actually worked. For days after every show, we had audience members calling the (anonymous) “Hook Up Hot Line” to tell us about the person they went home with, kissed, swapped numbers with or whatever'
Roslyn said she hopes to take the show on the road in the near future – to different cities across America and also to different countries.
'I'd really love to take it to London and see how it works there. And I have a love affair with Italy at the minute, it would be really great to bring it there. I think the Italians would love it.'
In 2010, Roslyn Hart was named one of the Top Ten Live Performers by Time Out New York and was recently a guest star on HBO's comedy Bored to Death.
Once a monthly show, Never Sleep Alone has now moved to a weekly slot on Saturdays at Joe's Pub (Public Theatre) in New York.
Successful attendees are encouraged to anonymously report their NSA hook up to the hotline on 917-830-3672.
Every show has been sold out days in advance. Tickets for upcoming shows can be booked here.