Fantasies, faking it, and feeling desired: The sexual secrets that reveal what REALLY turns women on in bed
Fantasies, faking it, and feeling desired: The sexual secrets that reveal what REALLY turns women on in bedThe writers of A Billion Wicked Thoughts explain how very different the male and female sexual brains are…
1:34 AM on 11th May 2011
It is the eternal question men have long struggled to answer: what turns women on. Now, two neuroscientists believe they have worked out the secret to what makes the fairer sex tick in bed.
In A Billion Wicked Thoughts, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam explain how very different the male and female sexual brains are.
While a man”s sexual brain is relatively simple, they believe a woman”s is far more complicated, and liken it to the cockpit of an F1 fighter jet.
“The world”s largest experiment”: Two neuroscientists believe they have worked out the secret to what makes the fairer sex tick in bed
In what they call “the world”s largest experiment”, they explain that men”s sexual brains are triggered by visual cues, so enjoy seeing a woman orgasm – meaning she may fake it if she feels it will please her partner.
Women, by contrast, place more importance on feeling desired, so, the book reveals, their sexual brain works like “a detective agency that investigates a man’s many qualities before deciding whether he’s worth her attention.”
Dr Ogas told CNN: “A woman wants to know that there’s going to be repeat action, that he’s committed and is going to be coming back.”
They point out that it shares parallels with Darwin”s “survival of the fittest” theory – that if prehistoric woman mated with the first male she met, her offspring would have been less likely to survive than that of females who were more selective.
The neuroscientists” research takes in data recorded from countless web searches, online search histories and websites.
Men, it found, generally don”t need to feel desired at all in order to feel sexually charged – just a single trigger will do – so they are more likely to be turned on by a fetish or visual porn.
Mars and Venus: Neuroscientists Sai Gaddam (left) and Ogi Ogas (right) explain how very different the male and female sexual brains are
In comparison, it rarely takes a single thing to trigger the female sexualbrain – women require a combination of things to get them in the mood.
Dr Gaddam explained: “The male sexual brain is like a single toggle switch, whereas the female sexual brain is like the cockpit of an F1 fighter jet. There are tons of dials and instruments, and there”s sophisticated calibration going on.
Secrets of sexual desire: A Billion Wicked Thoughts is released tomorrow
Very few women have fetishes, the pair learned. Instead, they require more of a story to be aroused, so their online searches often related to particular movie characters or romantic fantasy themes.
“There”s a lot of conversation that goes on among women about erotic stories about the inner feelings of the characters, whereas men consume porn alone and don”t talk about the aesthetics,” Dr Gaddam continued.
Dr Ogas added: “Male erotica is a solitary enterprise, and female erotica is a social enterprise.”
The book”s findings make sense in terms of the pace of scientific developments.
The erectile dysfunction drug Viagra delivers straightforward results because men can be both physically and mentally aroused at once.
A drug to spark female sexual desire would be more difficult to develop, as women can be mentally turned off and physically turned on at the same time.
Complications in relationships between men and women arise, Dr Gaddam said, because “everyone assumes their own interests are the norm, and we quickly label anything else as weird or even dangerous.”
Dr Ogas added: “We should all be more sexually tolerant.”
A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam is published by Dutton Adult. Available from tomorrow, $26.95 at Amazon.com