Dirty dishes and divorces: Three in ten couples split over cleaning and household chores
15:46 GMT, 31 August 2012
Household chores are never fun, especially if you live with a someone whose lifestyle habits rivals that of a sloth.
And now it has been revealed that three in ten divorcing UK couples blame arguments over the washing up and their other halves not pulling their weight around the house for the demise of their relationships.
While infidelity and drifting apart were the most common reasons for a marriage break-up, the research also found domestic issues are playing a big part in divorce rates.
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Household issues and partners not doing their fair share of house chores accounted for 30 per cent of divorces, while infidelity led to the end of 40 per cent of marriages, followed by drifting apart – 35 per cent.
Lindsey Taylor, brand manager for Vileda, who carried out the research, said: 'Day-to-day domestic problems may seem trivial at first but, if it happens every single day, resentment can build and it can lead to much bigger issues.
'There may be another major reason behind a break-up, such as money worries or drifting apart, but it can be the little rows over things like washing up that can help tip rowing couples over the edge.'
Some 56 per cent of couples said they believe day-to-day domestic issues to be a major factor when separating, while 59 per cent agreed it must be difficult to stay in a relationship where one partner isn’t helping out around the house.
Some 56 per cent of couples said they believe day-to-day domestic issues to be a major factor when separating
Leaving things lying around the house topped the list of domestic issues most likely to lead to a row (26%), followed by partners not pulling their weight (26%) and neglecting the washing up (18%).
Not putting dirty clothes into the linen basket, not loading the dishwasher and never putting the washing on closely followed, with 15 per cent and 11 per cent respectively.
The average couple argued about the issues three times a month for a full nine months before deciding to split although, for 17 per cent, the rows went on for more than two years.
But 22 per cent of divorcing couples said they were embarrassed to admit the reason behind their break-up as it didn’t sound serious enough.
And although 63 per cent do not regret divorcing, more than half – 55 per cent – of those polled said they and their partner could have worked harder to resolve the issues.
More than four-fifths (83%) of those who had gone on to meet another partner said they were working harder to avoid making the same mistakes as their previous relationship.
Lindsey added: 'Drawing up clear guidelines on household responsibilities may seem like a rather unromantic way to approach a relationship but being sensible and planning ahead could help couples avoid a dirty breakup in the future.'