Debbie Chalmers: Heartbreak for mum who wrote popular pregnancy blog as baby dies a day after birth


Heartbreak for mother who wrote popular pregnancy blog as baby dies a day after birth
Tragedy strikes 31-year-old after 'incident-free' nine months'Support and kindness I've been shown by strangers has been touching'

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19:18 GMT, 18 July 2012

A mother whose pregnancy blog became a hit with thousands of people has spoken of her heartbreak after her daughter died at just one-day-old.

Debbie Chalmers, 31, began posting recipes and housekeeping tips last year, and after falling pregnant, began sharing her progress with readers.

But after nine months of an incident-free pregnancy, Debbie's journey ended in tragedy after little Daisy died just 24 hours after her birth.

Tragedy: Debbie had an incident-free pregnancy but baby Daisy sadly died a day after she was born

Tragedy: Debbie had an incident-free pregnancy but baby Daisy sadly died a day after she was born

Debbie shared the tragic news with her followers after she had been inundated with requests to find out how the birth had gone – one reader from Cornwall had even knitted her a baby blanket she intended to send in the post.

Debbie, of Rosyth, Scotland, said: 'Since I shared the news of my pregnancy, my followers and readers have kept up to date with my progress.

'But when my due date came and went, I started to received messages, tweets and emails from others inquiring as to how we were doing.

'I didn't want to disappear off the face of the earth so I shared the sad news with the online community that my beautiful baby girl, Daisy, had sadly died at just a day old.'

Life cut short far too soon: Daisy became poorly and was transferred to the special care baby unit but they were not able to save her

Life cut short far too soon: Daisy became poorly and was transferred to the special care baby unit but they were not able to save her

Debbie, who is married to Douglas, 32, and has a six-year-old daughter called Lizzie and a three-year-old stepson, Blake, said she has been overwhelmed by the support she has received from her online community after breaking the news.

She said: 'The support and kindness I have received has been really very touching.

'These people are complete strangers
to me, other than via social networking and blogs, but have taken the
time to send condolences and messages of comfort at what has been such a
traumatic time.

'I've found it helpful to share my
story with strangers as they are a step removed from the intensity of
the grief we find ourselves wading through and can offer practical,
impartial advice and support.

'Just to know there are so many others
out there who care has been a source of strength to me at this
incredibly difficult time.'

Online diary: Debbie had shared her pregnancy progress, including this scan of Daisy, on her blog

Online diary: Debbie had shared her pregnancy progress, including this scan of Daisy, on her blog

Debbie, wrote about her blog, Family Life in Fife, around her job as a customer services co-ordinator at Carnegie College in Dunfermline, Scotland.

She mainly covered topics from money-saving hints to home-baking. As a sufferer of coeliac disease she found blogging useful for finding out more about gluten-free food.

But when she fell pregnant, she attracted other users by talking about preparing for a baby.

Her pregnancy had been worry-free but after Daisy was delivered at midnight on Tuesday July 3, she became poorly and was transferred to the special care baby unit.

Her condition continued to deteriorate rapidly and she passed away early the next morning.

Debbie said she would use the tragic experience to help others.

Comfort: Debbie has been overwhelmed by the support she has received from followers after sharing the tragic news on her blog

Comfort: Debbie has been overwhelmed by the support she has received from followers after sharing the tragic news on her blog

'I am now building my connections with other bereaved parents and bloggers who have suffered a neonatal loss to build my support network further and take comfort in the words of others,' she said.

'Perhaps one day I can write words that will support and comfort other parents who tragically find themselves going through a similar situation.'

Debbie now hopes to continue her blog after her tragedy.

She said: 'Writing my blog now has given me an outlet to communicate in a written form how I am feeling and to try to make sense of the jumbled, mixed-up thoughts rushing through my head.

'I cannot say for sure whether I will feel like writing every day, or every week. Tomorrow, I will worry about tomorrow.

'For now, blogging and tweeting is giving me strength and comfort and, as long as it continues to do so, I will keep doing it.

'I hope that, in time, I will get back to writing about all the other aspects of my life. For now I am learning to cope with my grief.'