'How am I going to remember them': How one VERY organised online dater used a spreadsheet to keep track of girlfriends
08:26 GMT, 19 April 2012
A male member of Match.com has used a spreadsheet to make sure he was able to distinguish between each of the eight women he was dating.
Dave, a 'financial services employee' from New York, used the Microsoft Excel tool to record details of each of the women's characteristics as well as progress reports on how his dates with them went.
Dave told Jezebel.com he emailed the spreadsheet to Arielle, a woman he had dated, after their April 4 meeting because she 'worked with spreadsheets a lot too.' Arielle then forwarded the document to a group of her friends two days later which helped turn the document viral.
Order: Dave, a Match.com online dater from New York, made a spreadsheet (pictured in part above) to keep track of the eight women he had been dating. The document got out after he emailed it to one of his dates
He had written to Arielle: 'Well, this could be a mistake, but what the hell… figured I might as well give you the whole thing. I hope this email doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :)' Arielle wrote to her friends: 'Just when I thought I had seen it all.'
The spreadsheet was split into various categories including 'Monitor closely' and 'Monitor casually' columns. It detailed sent text messages and email exchanges as well as the venues in which Dave and his date met.
Leaked: Dave's full identity has not been revealed
Serial dater: Dating Dave (who is not the man pictured in this photo) felt too time-starved to not keep a spreadsheet, he said
The document detailed his thoughts on
the women's physical appearance also.
Details such as 'very pretty,
sweet and down to earth' and 'OK girl, but very jappy' are shown.
He also made note of the woman who stood him up as well as his future intentions with another, adding 'hope to see again soon' into the grid.
The online dater told Jezebel.com he now regrets making the spreadsheet, labelling it 'an extraordinarily dumb decision.'
He then explained his thought process.
He said: 'I work with spreadsheets a lot… it's a great additional tool. I work long days, go to the gym, go out on a couple of midweek dates or what not, get home late… how am I going to remember them I'm not.
'So I made the spreadsheet. My comments aren't malicious or mean. This was an honest attempt to stay organised.'
Jezebel.com also spoke to one of the women who had featured on the spreadsheet.
Dave had tagged her as 'Jappy' which is a slang word for 'Jewish American princess'.
She said he was 'fidgety' when the pair met.
She explained: 'He got up to readjust himself a few times in the middle of our conversation, which was bizarre.
'He kept taking his glasses off and then putting them on again.'
In reference to the tag, she said she thought it was funny he had called her that, despite being shocked he had kept a spreadsheet in the first place.
She recalled Dave correctly identifying her designer handbag during their date, which probably led to the tag. 'He said his mom had it,' she said.