Confessions of a serial mistress: Affairs with 50 married men over the past six years and still not found Mr Right

Serial mistress, who has had affairs with over FIFTY married men, reveals in shocking confession 'when men are with me, it's the wife who is the other women'Karen Marley, 45, is divorced – and says she's happier 'flitting around' than settling down'Married men have had their rough edges sanded off,' she says. 'They are better trained'Karen, from Richmond, N.Yorks, says: 'I know married life isn’t for me. But I know that married men have the qualities I am looking for'

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14:41 GMT, 8 June 2012


Professional mistress: Karen Marley, 45, says she would rather date married men. 'Single men in their 40s are single for a reason,' she says

Professional mistress: Karen Marley, 45, says she would rather date married men. 'Single men in their 40s are single for a reason,' she says

She views a wedding ring as an aphrodisiac, a wife as ‘the other woman’ and the old mantra ‘never date a married man’ as a joke.

Karen Marley, 45, has been a self-confessed serial mistress for the last six years and has dated 50 married men.

'Married men are better trained,' she says.

'They have had all their rough edges sanded off by their wives and know how to behave around a lady. And married men are better in bed.'

'I’ve learned that a single man in his 40s is single for a reason. Either he has no social etiquette whatsoever or he’s a player, just looking for his next wrestle.'

'A single guy I was on a date with licked his plate in a restaurant. A married man would never do that because his wife would knock his head off his shoulders.'

Karen is a member of IllicitEncounters.com, the dating site for married people. Women can join for free but men are charged 134 a month to find a mistress having consciously made a decision to have an affair.

Karen insists that she merely ‘borrow’ husbands and doesn’t want them for keeps.

'Their wives should be grateful when it’s me their husbands choose. I’m the perfect mistress. I am never going to ask them to leave their wives for me. Most mistresses do, but not me. If I asked him to leave his wife, in every argument from then on he would say: “Do you know what I gave up for you” I don’t ever want to be part of that.

'In fact, when one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair. I was horrified. I don’t want to steal someone’s else husband for good, just borrow him for a while.

'I know how to behave as a mistress – and I don’t just mean in bed. I would never ring one of my married men at home at 2am or the weekend because that’s their time with their family.

'I would never throw a hissy fit if they don’t spend Valentine’s, Easter or Christmas with me. We both know exactly what the goalposts are. That’s the beauty of it all.'

Karen has been confronted by a couple of angry wives who suspected she was sleeping with their husbands.

She insisted that she was merely friends with the men and stopped seeing them immediately. She feels no guilt about her behaviour because she says the men on the site have already made a conscious decision to have an affair before meeting her.

'I am not the reason for their marital problems,' she says. 'Also it costs so much to join, so you get a certain quality of man.'

when one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair'

'When one of my men confessed about me to his wife and told me his marriage was over, I finished our affair'

Indeed, despite the current economic slump in the UK, Illicit Encounters have reported that business is booming – with the number of new members up by 27,000 in the last two months.

Experts say that that cheating websites are popular because many unhappily married couples simply cannot afford to get divorced in the current economic climate.

The stagnant housing market, growing family debt – up 58 per cent to an average of 9,314 per family this year – and the average cost of divorce – 13,000 – are forces behind the wide-spread shift to infidelity.

Many new Illicit Encounters members stated on their application forms that they were joining because they were in unhappy marriages that they were unable to get out of in what is now a ‘double-dip’ recession.

Illicit Encounters spokesperson Rosie Freeman-Jones said: 'Many couples are now finding themselves trapped in unhappy marriages because they simply cannot afford to divorce.

'It’s not just legal fees. It’s the fact they can’t sell their houses since the market is so stagnant. Worse, some are in a position of negative equity. A surprisingly high number of people who have recently joined have said that they count their marriages as over already and would have already got a divorce by now if they could only afford it. Having an affair is treated almost as a practical, rather than a romantic, decision.'

Mistresses like Karen Marley are reaping the benefit from this boom in cheating. She stresses she is not after the men for their money – and makes good money as a writer. Most of her affairs do not last long.

She says: 'When husbands are on loan to me they almost revert back to being in their 20s because that’s often the last time they dated. We go to the theatre and do all the things married couple no longer do because they’ve already done it.

'I get the good bits of married men. During our time together, it’s the wife who is the other woman.'

Karen divorced her husband 11 years ago, but says she is happier flitting from one man to the next rather than finding Mr Right.

'I know married life isn’t for me. But I know that married men have the qualities I am looking for.'