Being nice to your wife Better not, it will only make her SUSPICIOUS
Suspicious behaviour: If you husband came home with a bunch of flowers tonight would you question his motives
We all dream of small romantic gestures. But if your husband actually came home with a bouquet of flowers, would you question his motives
If so, you are not alone. A new study, released today, revealed that men who are ‘too nice’ to their other half will spark fears that they are cheating.
Researchers found that two thirds of women become suspicious if their partner suddenly has ‘new tricks’ in the bedroom, makes grand romantic gestures or even if he makes them breakfast in bed.
Other triggers for suspicion amongst
mistrusting wives and girlfriends are if their man treats them to
jewellery or sexy underwear.
helping out with housework leads to millions of females to believe her
chap is ‘playing away’ according to the poll of 2000 adults.
that we would complain about the help. A third of women said they would
be happy to turn a blind eye to a minor indiscretion if it meant that
their partner was nicer to live with.
Louise Thompson Davies, a spokesman from Kellogg's, who conducted the
survey, said: 'It seems there is an emotional gulf between the sexes
when it comes to matters of the heart.
when men think they are just being nice and showering their other half
with gifts and affection they think they are being attentive but the
reality is that women just don’t see it like that.
'Today’s work and life pressures have resulted in romantic gestures like making your wife or girlfriend breakfast in bed much more of a rare occasion.
'This is why most women tend to reach for the panic button and suspect the worst when they are made a fuss over.
'The smallest changes in a man’s behaviour can set a women’s mind whirring and get them worrying.
Home help: Even doing more chores around the house can raise suspicions that a man is having an affair
'But it’s interesting to see how many women would be willing to ignore their suspicions and just enjoy having a new more attentive partner.
'It seems that for some women having a romantic and thoughtful partner is more important than having one that is faithful.'
The study found surprise gifts of
chocolates would instantly cause concern for most women, with one in six
women saying that their partner has given them a gift in the past
because of a guilty conscience.
TOP TWENTY THINGS THAT MAKE WOMEN SUSPICIOUSBuys jewellery
New moves in the bedroomMore emotionalBuys flowersBuys chocolatesMore attentiveBuys sexy underwearBook a romantic weekend awayBuys you more thingsHelps more with the choresTells you he loves you moreMakes breakfast in bedPays more complimentsTexts moreDoes the cookingCalls moreListens betterRuns bathsHand over the TV remoteCuddles more
Only a fifth of women said they assume their other half was having a full blown affair. But most said that they would think he had something to hide or was trying to divert their attention from another misdemeanour.
Two thirds of women said that if their suspicions were aroused they would have to get to the bottom of it. And more than a third of women confessed that the better behaved their partner was, the more likely they were to snoop on his phone or Facebook page.
Men, on the other hand, would not mind the occasional treat. They admitted that they were more likely to be suspicious of a cheating partner if they stopped paying them as much attention and were more secretive than usual.
Other things that would make men worry their partner was hiding something included taking more care over their appearance, wearing sexy underwear and making less effort around the home.
Jean Hannah Edelstein, author of relationship guide Himglish and Femalese: Why Women Don’t Get Why Men Don’t Get Them, said: 'Women often associate traditional “romantic” gestures with the early, courtship phase of a relationship when, in effect, their partner is trying to persuade them to make a commitment.
'Women tend to think that these gestures are empty once the commitment has been made and this kind of fuss is less common so they assume the worst. Which is a shame.
'If you are concerned about your partner’s behaviour, it’s best to express your concerns in a non-confrontational way, rather than jump to conclusions.'