Are YOU lying about your parenting skills? Over half of mums confess to telling fibs to appear to others as the perfect mother

Are YOU lying about your parenting skills Over half of mums confess to telling fibs to make themselves seem like the perfect mother
Nine out of 10 mothers confess to using television to keep their children quietOne third admit to occasionally swapping bedtime story for a TV showOne in five say their children occasionally have sweets for dinner

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12:32 GMT, 1 November 2012

Pressure on mothers to be 'perfect' means more than half have been forced to lying about their parenting skills to make them seem like better parents to their peers.

Parenting website BabyCentre revealed that 53 per cent of mothers resort to fabricating stories about their parenting experiences rather than admit to others that they don't always do what is considered to be the right thing.

BabyCentre spoke to 1,000 UK mums for its Secret Life of Mum survey, in order to debunk the myths about parenting in the real world.

Electronic babysitter: Nine out of 10 mothers confess to using television to keep their children quiet - but would rather other parents did not know

Electronic babysitter: Nine out of 10 mothers confess to using television to keep their children quiet – but would rather other parents did not know

The findings revealed that it's not just around other parents that mothers feel they must paint themselves in a more positive light.

One in three mothers (32 per cent) confessed to not being truthful when talking to their midwife or health visitor, and nearly three quarters (71 per cent) admitted to lying to their child to make their day easier.

With their Secret Life Of Mum survey, BabyCentre say that they wanted to 'hold a mirror up to hectic family life' and reflect the shortcuts most parents take but would rather keep under their hat.

Top among the parenting choices mothers would rather keep under wraps using the TV to keep children quiet, which nine out of 10 mothers confessed to doing.

One third reluctantly admitted to replacing the bedtime story with a TV show, while a fifth of families say that once in a while, a healthy dinner is replaced by chocolate and sweets – something that will feel only too familiar to many households after the sugar-fuelled festival that is Halloween.

Sasha Miller, International Managing Editor for BabyCentre, believes the huge pressure on mothers prevents them from being truthful about the challenges of holding everything together. She says: 'Parenting is a tough job. We all struggle from time to time. I don't think mums should ever feel bad about admitting to cutting corners.'

Parenting blunder: PM David Cameron famously left his eight-year-old daughter in a pub earlier this year

Parenting blunder: PM David Cameron famously left his eight-year-old daughter in a pub earlier this year

'What I find really interesting is how mums tell us that they try to keep up appearances with parents they meet in the real world but online there is nothing they won't share. In our community on BabyCentre mums are always confessing to less-than-perfect mummy moments.

'And they find that when they do, they get a chorus of other mums saying: “Oh yes, I've done that too!”

'You can be anonymous in the online world so it's easier to be honest and it makes you feel so much better to find out that you're not alone.'

The same survey also found that two fifths of mums have felt dislike for their child. The same number of respondents said that they have compared one child unfavourably to another, and among working mums, three quarters admitted to feeling relieved to go back to work on a Monday morning.

New parents also reported a range of ‘mummy mishaps’ – with one in three forgetting to strap their baby into their car seat.

However, Prime Minister David Cameron – who recently left his eight-year-old daughter in a pub – may not be so comforted to hear that only two per cent of mothers admitted to having left their child behind when out with them.

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